I don't understand my BF! Help!

[lennethpanic87]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2yrs. Last night I mentioned wanting to get married and having kids in the future and he got upset. He said he has too much to think about and hes not going to quote "think about this ****." and he told me to stop talking about it. Am I wrong to want to talk about the future? I'm 23yrs old and he is 22 we are young, but not too young to not consider these things. I never see him anymore because all he does is work and on the weekends he goes to Austin for his Texas State Guard meetings. I'm always last on his list and I'm tired of it. He makes me feel bad for not having a job, but I'm bipolar and I've been struggling to find and keep a job. He's never understanding and never gives me a break. We have had good times so it's not all bad and he does make me laugh. I love him to death, but I need more. So, my questions are: Should I try to work it out? Should I breakup with him? Will he ever want to marry me? Am I just being pushy? I don't know what to do

[Bees Knees]

By the sounds of it he won't even have time to get married
to you or make babies. Most guys at that age are still boys and are
too young to think about stuff like that. But if hes not making time
for you then whats the point of being with him? Relationships survive
on spending time together etc.

[Abriel]

No offense but I can see why he wouldn't wanna marry you.
Are you on medication for your bipolar disorder?

[lennethpanic87]

I've been fully medicated for three years. What I failed to mention is that he is Bipolar also, but he is un-medicated.

[xR3born]

Well, if he doesn't want to have a "future" with you then, I recommend you to break up with him. Also, by putting you last mean that he doesn't care about you. A guy that love you should think about the future ,and love you no matter what you are.

[Sherry Lisa]

Oh to be young... I do not think you should get married and have kids if he does not find time for you.. marriage and kids will NOT make it any better... Kids will actually make it worse. You do not like being left home now, wait till you have to take care of a baby round the clock with no help.. That will make you insane and no meds in the world will help. ;-)

[x_XKatieX_x]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2yrs. Last night I mentioned wanting to get married and having kids in the future and he got upset. He said he has too much to think about and hes not going to quote "think about this ****." and he told me to stop talking about it. Am I wrong to want to talk about the future?


You're not wrong to want to speak about the future, especially, after two years together......................the point is your boyfriend doesn't seem to want to.



I'm 23yrs old and he is 22 we are young, but not too young to not consider these things. I never see him anymore because all he does is work and on the weekends he goes to Austin for his Texas State Guard meetings. I'm always last on his list and I'm tired of it. He makes me feel bad for not having a job, but I'm bipolar and I've been struggling to find and keep a job. He's never understanding and never gives me a break.


I think it's young..........

Why would you want to even consider the future with someone who puts you the bottom of their priorities?



We have had good times so it's not all bad and he does make me laugh. I love him to death, but I need more. So, my questions are: Should I try to work it out? Should I breakup with him? Will he ever want to marry me? Am I just being pushy? I don't know what to do

You have "had" [as in the past], good times...........but maybe it's time to move on.......

Personally, I think you should break up with him............

Another option might be to take a break from each other.........and see how you both feel then after a period of time.................it might also be a good idea to try to become less dependent on him as well............ good luck