What would you do

[Huyen]

I have a bestfriend named Jay, and we've known eachother basically all of our lives . We lived together in Korea and he knows that I am lesbian . But now that we're 20 & in USA he finally admitted that he's been madly in love with me ever since we were 15 . I didn't know what to think at first because I had never looked at him this way, but when I thought about it. I realized that I did love him and he had been with me all of my life . And now we've been happily dating for about 5months .


That's what I did (:

[twinkle toez]

I have had lots of women come on to me and one a good friend and .. I always said the same thing .. sorry I am strictly dic k ly

[Screamin'Ryan]

if your best friend (of the opposite gender) told you they were madly in love with you?

It would depend on how I felt about them. If I liked them back, I would tell them so. If I didn't, I would tell them that I loved them, but not in the same way.

[Ruvin]

I love him back, but not in the way you would think. If there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone, then the first is what I feel for him

I don't want to crush his feelings, but on the other hand I don't want to lead him on. I was told from someone I should just be straightforward with him and turn him down so that he could have some sort of closure and move on. The only problem with that is I don't want to ruin in the friendship in any way

I've hinted to him that I'm not interested and tried to avoid the subject all together. I think it's working and we've strayed away from the topic, but should I bring it up again to tell him directly that I don't like him that way?

If he isn't bringing it up anymore, I'd leave it.
Only if he brings it up again I would tell him straightforward and honestly that you do love him, you're just not in love with him. and that you really want to keep the friendship going.

[Matteh MoO MoO]

I faced the same problem the other day. Of course, I don't find her physically attractive at all.

I basically told her that really really valued our friendship, I don't want that kind of relationship to ruin that, because if we did fail at it I could tell we would defiantly never talk to each other again.

[Trevor Reznik.]

i wouldnt deny them anything less than everything ive got towards a relationship, them being my best friend

[Sashi]

Well if you like that person then say ur inlove with him too and if you dont tell him/her the truth its better to be honest all the time.

[Pippin]

Well if you like that person then say ur inlove with him too and if you dont tell him/her the truth its better to be honest all the time.

That's just the thing, I don't like him that way. Just the thought of being with him freaks me out

We don't talk anymore (basically we got into this huge fight about it and he was a total prick after I turned him down) I was really upset at the time but I've been coping pretty well. It just kind of sucks that we had to end on bad terms

Anyhow, thanks everyone for your input

[Elmo28mUk]

I'd say that I was flattered and politely turn her down, I'd probably also make some self depreciating jokes about how she could find better anyway to make her feel better.

it's a shame he was a bit of an idiot after you told him, perhaps in time he'll come round. mature a little and realise your friendship is still worth keeping.

[*+*megan*+*]

I have had lots of women come on to me and one a good friend and .. I always said the same thing .. sorry I am strictly dic k ly

Lol I love this!!


OT: If you love him and the feeling is mutual I think you did the right thing. Congratulations!