Life Help

[SnipersGetHead]

Not sure what to do. My parents are completely trying to control my life.
I'm 18 and I don't drink or smoke.
They don't trust or seem to believe me in anything I say or do.
They don't even condone "hanging out" with friends. They don't believe in parties or relationships.
They don't even believe that I should have friends at all.
They don't even let me get a job so I can pay for my own fun and activities like going to the movies.
They won’t even let me stay over at a family’s house or let me even go out with my cousins.
And whenever I do want to go out they lie and make an excuse for why I can’t.
I've been pretty good all my life and I've done many successful things in my community to show my good characteristics such as Varsity Sports, Captain, Academic and Athletic Committees, fundraising, giving back, and etc.

I'm just wondering if it’s like this for anyone else or anything because whatever left of my friends that I have seem to do whatever they want.

[kiwi01]

Seems like your parents are control freak or they're just too overprotective

[Lory :D]

I think they are trying to keep you safe knowing teenagers and rebelling but it might feel like a cage and probably does. You need to get them to understand your view and since your 18 your almost off to college right? Thats great! you've made great achievements and choices they should be proud for you and proud to be your parents...Hope this helped

[DQLouise]

You're 18. Move out. It's your life. If you want to go to the movies or hang out with friends just go. You don't need to ask permission. If you feel you have to tell them where you are going. Write a note and leave. They can't control your life.

And also if they don't believe in relationships ask them why you are here? They are in a relationship right now.

Stand up for yourself. Lay down some ground rules your not a child anymore, and you need to have responsibilities and you need a job to start saving for you future

[Luka]

Not sure what to do. My parents are completely trying to control my life.
I'm 18 and I don't drink or smoke.
They don't trust or seem to believe me in anything I say or do.
They don't even condone "hanging out" with friends. They don't believe in parties or relationships.
They don't even believe that I should have friends at all.
They don't even let me get a job so I can pay for my own fun and activities like going to the movies.
They won’t even let me stay over at a family’s house or let me even go out with my cousins.
And whenever I do want to go out they lie and make an excuse for why I can’t.
I've been pretty good all my life and I've done many successful things in my community to show my good characteristics such as Varsity Sports, Captain, Academic and Athletic Committees, fundraising, giving back, and etc.

I'm just wondering if it’s like this for anyone else or anything because whatever left of my friends that I have seem to do whatever they want.

Wtf? Can I come stay with you?

Seriously, though. Tell them to back off. It's your life as others have said. Call their bluff, you'd be surprised how easily their attitude will change.

[Dyke]

do you live with nuns

[Lanakila]

You might look into out-of-state colleges. It tends to put a parent's perspectives in order when their child is about to leave. I had a friend's parents that were super strict, and as the day came closer to her leaving for college, they got more, and more lenient and it definitely helped their relationship realizing that their "baby" wasn't a baby anymore and they couldn't be making all these rules for her.

[carolinaw]

Because they love you so much and not willing to see you are hurted by others, they try their best to keep you safe. If you are unhappy of this life, you can talk with them and tell them what you want. You are old enough to decide what you should do or not do. I think they know you can take care of yourself, they will let you do what you like. Just try. Tell them.

[Schopenhauer]

At eighteen your parents opinions shouldn't matter.

[Unknown Soldier]

As long as your parents are supporting you and you are living under their roof.... you should do as they wish. Don't want to do that... move out and support yourself.

Simple.