Oh, it's just my ex.

[Rickp46]

I'm a guy, and i have the same situation. My gf sneak around to talk to her ex because she knows it upsets me. But he was ****ty to her, and she still talks to him a lot. She's more honest with him than me. The constant not knowing is killing me and this relationship. I don't ever want to tell her not to do something, if she doesn't feel she needs to do it on her own. i can't ever get that right, I feel for you I really do. For the people who say" Just leave them." , thats not even slightly easy when its the only person you have imagined being with for years and you love them enough to die at any moment for them. I'd give up my family for her.


She used to call me when she was unhappy with him, and now I feel its the exact opposite.

[Diante]

umm I don't see a problem in this... i do see a problem in this thread though, its kinda stupid.

If that's the case, why are you posting in the thread, dumb fuck.

It doesn't really both me to be honest. I am not going to constantly worry that he has contact with his ex's (whether it is through FB, text, talking on the phone, etc), because I think that would be weighing on my mind all the time and it wouldn't be too good for the relationship - if you think something between them may go further, you can only talk to them about it. Some can be messy, others have worked out well, guess it depends on the partner and the ex when it comes down to it. Really, there needs to be trust in a relationship, if there isn't, your relationship is going to go down hill, and quickly.

You have a good point, actually. How about if you were having dreams and etc. of him being caught with his ex by you and such? Would you shake it off or try to get some answers? Apparently, when you dream about something coherent to what's happening around you it's because you are doubting something or need to know more. Do you believe in that? & how would you take it to have dreams about things such as that?

I get what you mean.. Like, there'd be suspicions that they are talking about you behind your back. But I trust my gf enough not to do anything like thaaaat.

Let me rephrase this in your case.... If your girlfriend was talking to her ex on the phone, etc and you didn't know about it until you found out on your own by reading an argument between her and a friend? How would you take it? What about if you were already having dreams of her getting back with her ex, etc?

If you don't have trust you have nothing. That's about all I have to say.

True enough. I must admit, but then again, what about if you guys trust one another yet you're still having doubts about things he's doing when you're not around?

Don't invest much in your bf/gf if that's the case. If the trust is gone then you're really just friends with benefits anyway. Someone who cares about you only would gladly cut off their relationship with their ex knowing that it would probably hurt you or bother you. You can't expect them to burn bridges with friends but an ex is another thing.

How about this one... You found out your wife was still contacting her ex but weeks later she asks to go see him because they were still friends and they weren't going to do anything but chat, or whatever the case may be (you know how that goes - oh, we're just friends).

[Åndrew.]

you sure have a lot of questions about trust/cheating.


trouble in gayville?

[Diante]

you sure have a lot of questions about trust/cheating.


trouble in gayville?

Not really. Just wanted others opinion about the situation, jackass.

[curious_bloom<3]

you have to trust your gf/bf
without trust the relationships doomed

[Hell's Little Angel]

I'm not exactly in love with the idea. I dated a girl who was still best friends with her ex, they talked all the time and what they called friendly playing, I would call flirting. Needless to say I didn't continue seeing her. It's not so much that I'm jealous as much as I know no good can come from that.

In general, I think exes are usually bad news.
You always want what you can't have, and I mean that on both ends.

[Lanakila]

I don't know if I could deal with that, especially considering the last part. I don't mind them being friends with their ex's as long as its STRICTLY friends, nothing more. But when he's talking about wanting to be in bed with them again, thats not just friendship.

[Missyy]

You have to trust your partnet, but don't let them take you for a mug either.

[phreek]

Nothing good ever comes out of it. Unless you're into a three-ways. To me, it's a sign of disrespect.

[GirlyEmmie]

I think it really depends on the situation. How long ago did they break up and who called it off? I began a relationship with a guy who had broken it off with his ex, they remained friends but I don't think her feelings ever really faded. She continuously tried to cause drama between us in an attempt to get him back. He was too stupid to see this and I eventually became sick of it despite trusting that he would do nothing.

Admittedly I would not put myself in this position again