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    Default Hey Everyone

    Im new on here ,, but want some advice or opinions regarding a new relationship I am in..
    I went through a horrible , divorce,, has taken me 4 years to get over it.
    I have by my surprise,, met someone Im crazy about. Weve been seeing each other for 4 mo

    He has a very demanding job..( but a good one) and got transferred out of state
    2 mo ago. Its only a couple of hours drive and we decided we were not giving up on our
    relationship bc of it. Ive been down there a couple of times and he has not come here at
    all yet. Yes hes busier with work than I so, I dont mind.

    He has 6 kids,, they do not live with him, and before everyone freaks out,, that part doesnt bother me at
    all ,, He is one of 7 kids himself and his family is super close , I actually love that about him.

    So heres my q,, I went down a couple of wks ago and helped stay with his youngest ones while he had to work,
    thoroughly enjoyed it,, I also went down a month ago and we went to see his older daughter in a pageant,, enjoyed that too.

    NOW ,, he is coming here for a birthday in my family next wkend,( my kids have met him and love him)
    I told him the other night , that we would spend the one afternoon with family ,, but that I was super excited about us
    having some alone time again! He agreed and we even talked about a special date,,

    NOW today he called and said that his daughter was coming with him,, I was very quiet and then he said he hoped it was ok
    I told him I loved his kids but wanted some alone time. he said shes old enough she can stay alone some,,( which is ridiculous) when
    bringing her somewhere for the first time shes 16. So ,, he text me and said I hope thats ok,, I said I was hoping for alone time,
    he said he really needed to spend some time with her,, and if I wanted he would just stay home . I told him his reaction hurt me and I was surprised
    by it,, he replied ,,yours hit me the same way.

    This is our first misunderstanding ( if you will) and Im upset,, he called after that and said she called and asked to come stay with him
    , she lives about 2 hrs from him, when he said he was coming here,, she said she wanted to come along. , and he said ok.

    AM I being selfish? I think Im falling in love with him, and he feels the same way. I dont want to screw this up , but Ive also been in a bad
    relationship and was treated like a doormat,, dont want to repeat that either.. HELP how do I handle this.??

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    This thread made me cry and sorry for you being divorced.

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    I think you are overreacting, remember to a lot of people their kids will always come first - and if she lives 2 hours away thats pretty hard too... Just be more considerate and talk it out with him hiding feelings is what sours relations!


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    Quote Originally Posted by GRE3N View Post
    I think you are overreacting, remember to a lot of people their kids will always come first - and if she lives 2 hours away thats pretty hard too... Just be more considerate and talk it out with him hiding feelings is what sours relations!

    What green said!!

    Anyways..
    Welcome to forums.
    Enjoy your visit.

    And don't shed your tears , Please!!
    it will do no good but drag others to sadness as most of em are kids..!!

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    Hi, I didn't read a word of what you posted [:
    Welcome to Chat Avenue Forums!

    Last edited by Curly<3; 04-14-2012 at 07:50 PM.

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    Welcome to CAF. Good posting!

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    long stupid essays. Welcome to the forums. Enjoy your badluck here.
    Life Must Go On

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    Quote Originally Posted by Curly<3 View Post
    Hi, I didn't read a word of what you posted [:
    Welcome to Chat Avenue Forums!

    What Curly said.
    Also,have fun posting.

    R.

    10/9/08. I'll always remember you.

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    Welcome to Chat Avenue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Curly<3 View Post
    Hi, I didn't read a word of what you posted [:
    Welcome to Chat Avenue Forums!



    Welcome, I guess?
    Although I don't think you'll be sticking around.
    Good luck with this guy, hopefully he thinks as much of you as you do of him.

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