Im new on here ,, but want some advice or opinions regarding a new relationship I am in..
I went through a horrible , divorce,, has taken me 4 years to get over it.
I have by my surprise,, met someone Im crazy about. Weve been seeing each other for 4 mo
He has a very demanding job..( but a good one) and got transferred out of state
2 mo ago. Its only a couple of hours drive and we decided we were not giving up on our
relationship bc of it. Ive been down there a couple of times and he has not come here at
all yet. Yes hes busier with work than I so, I dont mind.
He has 6 kids,, they do not live with him, and before everyone freaks out,, that part doesnt bother me at
all ,, He is one of 7 kids himself and his family is super close , I actually love that about him.
So heres my q,, I went down a couple of wks ago and helped stay with his youngest ones while he had to work,
thoroughly enjoyed it,, I also went down a month ago and we went to see his older daughter in a pageant,, enjoyed that too.
NOW ,, he is coming here for a birthday in my family next wkend,( my kids have met him and love him)
I told him the other night , that we would spend the one afternoon with family ,, but that I was super excited about us
having some alone time again! He agreed and we even talked about a special date,,
NOW today he called and said that his daughter was coming with him,, I was very quiet and then he said he hoped it was ok
I told him I loved his kids but wanted some alone time. he said shes old enough she can stay alone some,,( which is ridiculous) when
bringing her somewhere for the first time shes 16. So ,, he text me and said I hope thats ok,, I said I was hoping for alone time,
he said he really needed to spend some time with her,, and if I wanted he would just stay home . I told him his reaction hurt me and I was surprised
by it,, he replied ,,yours hit me the same way.
This is our first misunderstanding ( if you will) and Im upset,, he called after that and said she called and asked to come stay with him
, she lives about 2 hrs from him, when he said he was coming here,, she said she wanted to come along. , and he said ok.
AM I being selfish? I think Im falling in love with him, and he feels the same way. I dont want to screw this up , but Ive also been in a bad
relationship and was treated like a doormat,, dont want to repeat that either.. HELP how do I handle this.??