Please Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ikelander]

im 21 years old, i have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 years. we have a 2 year old together..
he had cheated on me with his ex when he first started dating. i forgave him
i was pregnant when i first found out about the messages he was sending her, he admitted to having feelings for her still..
he came up to me about 6 months ago and said she was messaging him again.. she told him that she understood he had a family now and wouldnt talk to the way she use to with him.. he asked me for permission to talk to her, i told him if i find anything going on again, it has to end. so time went on, they were talking like friends (he never deleted messages) everything was okay.. but then she started bugging him to answer some of her unanswered questions.. he would ignore her and change the topic.. but one day he gave in and admitted he loved her still.. we had a big arguement.. im still hurt over this, i dont know what to do.. his daughter loves him and i have to admit im scared to be alone.. but when i try to fix our relationship he says its me! he somehow manages to flip it on me.. and i feel like the bad guy.. he has his ex on block now.. but blocking someone of fbook doesnt mean you block that person from ur mind and heart.. we havent touched that topic in awhile...... should i bring it up again?.. it bugs me everyday.. i wake up feeling like i want him out of my house, but i also have my days where we are talking about marriage.. i love him a lot and i want to remain a family..
basically what im asking is for advice on what i should do? leave him? stay with him but have a serious talk?... my head is so sore from all this thinking.. i feel like im his second choice.. his ex will always have his heart..

its a bad idea to do what people on a forum tell you

no one here knows what you should do

go talk to your mom or a friend or something they would be able to help you way better then anyone on here

[Isabella*]

Ultimately, it's your choice and you know what you're more inclined to do..
As an outsider I think the best option would be to leave him, you also need to think about your child and it should be in a warm, loving environment. Obviously he'd be able to see the child as y'all agree but maybe that'd make things much more of a reality for you both and if he really wants to love and be with you, he'd go out of his way to show it.
You shouldn't have to settle.
Good Luck.