What the heck should I do?

[winelips]

I started seeing a guy a couple of weeks ago. Everything was awesome. We had a great connection and spent nearly every single day together for those weeks. We have a ton in common and it was very easy for us to just talk for hours.

He frequently told me how special I was and how much he liked being with me. I felt likewise towards him. Our relationship progressed quickly, but both of us claimed to be totally comfortable and happy. *** was an aspect early on, but it was just an addition to an otherwise successful connection, not a necessity.

We had a serious talk about officially dating. He said that he was all for a "monogamous romantic relationship". I was thrilled.

Then a few days later he changed his mind. He didn't want to see me anymore. He said that I was a "rarity", but that he was "messed up" and needed to be alone. He said he didn't want to "prolong the inevitable"

Naturally, I freaked out a little bit and tried to make him stop being such an idiot. I annoyed him pretty quickly with that, so I now have stopped talking to him entirely in hopes that some space will make him come back eventually. I really want to be with him. I thought everything was working fine before. And I don't think that he was tricking me or lying about his feelings.

Is there anything I can do to fix this? Or am I pretty much screwed? What the heck should I do!?!?!

[Abriel]

I started seeing a guy a couple of weeks ago. Everything was awesome. We had a great connection and spent nearly every single day together for those weeks. We have a ton in common and it was very easy for us to just talk for hours.

He frequently told me how special I was and how much he liked being with me. I felt likewise towards him. Our relationship progressed quickly, but both of us claimed to be totally comfortable and happy. *** was an aspect early on, but it was just an addition to an otherwise successful connection, not a necessity.

We had a serious talk about officially dating. He said that he was all for a "monogamous romantic relationship". I was thrilled.

Then a few days later he changed his mind. He didn't want to see me anymore. He said that I was a "rarity", but that he was "messed up" and needed to be alone. He said he didn't want to "prolong the inevitable"

Naturally, I freaked out a little bit and tried to make him stop being such an idiot. I annoyed him pretty quickly with that, so I now have stopped talking to him entirely in hopes that some space will make him come back eventually. I really want to be with him. I thought everything was working fine before. And I don't think that he was tricking me or lying about his feelings.

Is there anything I can do to fix this? Or am I pretty much screwed? What the heck should I do!?!?!

Well I am going to be upfront about this, you gave it (sex) up too early.

It sounds like he has issues and if you tried to talk to him about it and didn't want to discuss it there's not much more you can do.
Just let him know you're willing to be a friend and offer to listen to him. That sounds like what he needs right now. The more you push the further away from you he will want to be.

Good luck.

[Boomerang]

Well I am going to be upfront about this, you gave it (sex) up too early.

It sounds like he has issues and if you tried to talk to him about it and didn't want to discuss it there's not much more you can do.
Just let him know you're willing to be a friend and offer to listen to him. That sounds like what he needs right now. The more you push the further away from you he will want to be.

Good luck.

I agree with her completely. At this juncture you can either use (it) to try and control him, which, in the end will backfire or, as Abriel said, back-up to the discussion-level and maybe salvage something. If you give in physically to him, he's never going to come around, even if that's possible for him. Best of Luck!

["IRISH" RUFUS MURPHY]

Being a screwed up feelings kinda guy, I wouldnt just consider this being "blown off" by this guy. He could very well just not see himself as you see him. I know alot of the time I never could see what any woman I ever dated saw in me, so ehhhh idk BUT i wouldnt let it go on and on either, poke and prod him and ask him to fess up and talk and be honest, and if he still avoids you then he really was a dipsh!t in the end.

[ikelander]

I started seeing a guy a couple of weeks ago. Everything was awesome. We had a great connection and spent nearly every single day together for those weeks. We have a ton in common and it was very easy for us to just talk for hours.

He frequently told me how special I was and how much he liked being with me. I felt likewise towards him. Our relationship progressed quickly, but both of us claimed to be totally comfortable and happy. *** was an aspect early on, but it was just an addition to an otherwise successful connection, not a necessity.

We had a serious talk about officially dating. He said that he was all for a "monogamous romantic relationship". I was thrilled.

Then a few days later he changed his mind. He didn't want to see me anymore. He said that I was a "rarity", but that he was "messed up" and needed to be alone. He said he didn't want to "prolong the inevitable"

Naturally, I freaked out a little bit and tried to make him stop being such an idiot. I annoyed him pretty quickly with that, so I now have stopped talking to him entirely in hopes that some space will make him come back eventually. I really want to be with him. I thought everything was working fine before. And I don't think that he was tricking me or lying about his feelings.

Is there anything I can do to fix this? Or am I pretty much screwed? What the heck should I do!?!?!

just move on?

who cares anyways am i right?

you can always like some other dude

**** it am i right?

[Vegeta14]

I agree with her completely. At this juncture you can either use (it) to try and control him, which, in the end will backfire or, as Abriel said, back-up to the discussion-level and maybe salvage something. If you give in physically to him, he's never going to come around, even if that's possible for him. Best of Luck!

He probably has some issues to work out with and is afraid of messing up and losing you in the end. Next time try not giving up *** before officially dating and try to be more open with someone before that happens. Communication is key in a relationship.

[-Eтεяйαl-Fαмε.-™]

Hang him by the nuts and profess you're undying love for him all the while explaining what an outrage the whole situation is.

[temptation01]

oh if he hasnt contacted you already by now, trust me, he will, they always come crawling back

[4EverBlazen]

First of all, you didn't wreck the relationship. Aside from you know the whole *** that has already been mentioned by so many people, i dont think you were really at fault. the way I see it, this guy up and decided that he was gonna put off the inevitable and back out of a relationship, just out of the blue. The best thing to do is to give him space. yeah, space is really good. If he really likes you, he will eventually miss you and get over whatever complex he's feeling or whatever. If he never liked you, he's probably gonna forget you and move on and that was just probably a really lame excuse to break up with you. In that case it's over.

if you really love this guy, then you can choose to wait for Him to get over his issues during this space. Then you can hang out with your friends or take up a hobby, you know keep busy so you don't miss him all the time.

But in most cases, I'll advice moving on. If you can live without Him, I'll advice to move on.

but it's all up to you... Do you choose to wait, or to move on?

[Boomerang]

First of all, you didn't wreck the relationship. Aside from you know the whole *** that has already been mentioned by so many people, i dont think you were really at fault. the way I see it, this guy up and decided that he was gonna put off the inevitable and back out of a relationship, just out of the blue. The best thing to do is to give him space. yeah, space is really good. If he really likes you, he will eventually miss you and get over whatever complex he's feeling or whatever. If he never liked you, he's probably gonna forget you and move on and that was just probably a really lame excuse to break up with you. In that case it's over.

if you really love this guy, then you can choose to wait for Him to get over his issues during this space. Then you can hang out with your friends or take up a hobby, you know keep busy so you don't miss him all the time.

But in most cases, I'll advice moving on. If you can live without Him, I'll advice to move on.

but it's all up to you... Do you choose to wait, or to move on?

Be sure the ONLY thing you give him is space!