what crisis have you faced?

[Laydee D]

My crisis was finding out my husband was living a double live for 11 years. Devastating, but facing it has made me stronger and wiser.

[Red Venus Moon]

ummm I've dealt with 2 deaths and now a stroke in the last 30 days in my family... I'm tired.......

[Valley-Girl]

Gee how far back to you want us to go.

Most recently, my husband had his bags packed, was controling, angry and just short of violent. But before he walked out he just stopped, looked around at what he was leaving, and instead went to counciling, and so did I, 4 months later our marriage is better then it was before, but not without a lot of work. The sad thing is that I met a really nice guy here that made letting him leave sooooo tempting. Now that man and I are good friends, husband likes him too, and I am incredibly glad that we did the work. Now the children's lives and family is stable. The root problem stemmed back several years ago, funny how it can grow. We are still in counciling, we don't want to risk stopping until the job is done.

I have one son who is mildly retarded. And all the issues that go with that.

I lost most of my friends because my spiritual beliefs we no longer to their liking, I was not godly enough.

In the past 3 years, I have buried 7 really good friends to either stupid accidents, suicide or diesease and one sister in law. And then had to try to fight her daughter when she wanted to become a drug partying girlie.

And yet ppl still dismiss everything I have to say and offer because it is not what they want to hear. Really frustrating. If you want me to go back further then 3 years let me know. Just kidding about that, really. But when I look back I know that there is nothing that you can not survive or fix, IF that is what you want to do.

[Luka]

Child abuse; emotionally and sexually from the ages 4-5.
Sisters being put into a home because my parents were drug and alcohol addicts. They put them into a home but kept me because they got more money for me. Our house was like a squalor.
I missed out on the whole of Primary School because I stayed at home and fended for myself, because my parents were either too drunk or doped up because of Cocaine. I had to go to the next door neighbour for meals sometimes because I was too young to know how to work the cooker and such.
Bearing in mind I was 5 in 1994 and we didn't have a lot, and we were poor so it was hard.
I noticed I was gay from the age of 12, so coming out was hard, especially when I got a few beatings for being that way from my father, because he's now a heavily addicted Heroin Addicted, and suffers from MS. He kicked me out on Christmas Day in 2002, so I trundled down to the Police Station to stay there for a few days and they arranged for me to get home on the bus for free back upto Scotland.
I've seen a counsellor from the ages of 8-17, and as a result of my childhood, i'm prior to mood swings, and i'm emotionally unstable and insecure.
The slightest thing annoys me. And for example, if someone says to me 'I Love You' whether it's a friend or if it's Grant, my eyes fill up, because nobody's ever said that before to me and meant it, so it's unusual for me.
I was in counsellor sessions through High School, but I was a *dunce* because I missed out on Primary School. But now things have changed because basically I'm a straight A student, and I've done myself proud and raised myself from scum to what I am now.
I've had suicidal thoughts everyday but I don't have the bottle to do it, because I don't want to be deemed as the failure I once was. Pathetic, eh?

I hate my parents, yet I love them. Such a fool.

And I just realised I've ranted and probably off-topic.

[Jezebel]

Blergh.
Dad died when I was seven.
Mum died when I was twelve.
Raised by my grandmother, who although I love her ,it has been very hard living with her,with a 55 year age difference.
Emotional abuse from a a few members in my family.
Been s3xually abused by my cousin from the ages of 6-10.
Having a total thyriodemtcy (sc?)
Having dickhead leave.
Putting my dog to sleep.
And the accident last year.
So far no major crisis this year... and -touch wood- there won't be
Blergh.

[huffy]

But now things have changed because basically I'm a straight A student, and I've done myself proud and raised myself from scum to what I am now.
I've had suicidal thoughts everyday but I don't have the bottle to do it, because I don't want to be deemed as the failure I once was. Pathetic, eh?

i dont see anything pathetic there at all fella

congrats , and respect to you

[Sunset Dreamer]

Hugs to everyone... and Alex you are loved...you know that


The one that I will tell you about happened when I was 16. It's no secret that I used to race gokarts, as did the rest of my family. My brother was racing in NH and hit a cement wall at 70 mph. I saw the entire thing. It wasn't the gokart that hit the wall, it was my brother's head. The gokart rolled over ontop of him. Somehow, I jumped down from the top of the motorhome I was watching the race from, ran across the racetrack (waving my arms like a mad woman) to stop the other gokarts from hitting him. He was flat on his back on the track with blood flowing across the asphalt. Another brother and my father were in the race, saw me, and stopped thier karts as a barracade. My brother died 3 times on the way to the hospital but was revived. He stayed in a coma for 14 days while my parents stayed at the hospital with him. I continued to go to school, having my oldest brother stay at my parents house with me. 14 days later he came out of the coma while I was there, opened his eyes and said "I need to ****" He went to the bathroom (looking like a walking zombie) my parents asked if he knew who was here...and he said..yes Lisa Ann (me) That was the hardest thing I ever had to face.


I've had 3 miscarriages

Found out I can't have more children

Had my son get extremely ill due to asthma many times over

Adopted a "healthy" 12 yr old to find out that he has 7 mental disorders

And more that I will keep to myself

[hugh1980]

My oldest kid is 13, and everyday is a crisis to her. Does that count?

[Valley-Girl]

You know I bet there are many amazing ppl here that have survived many things that would make us all shudder. I know that I made my post recent, but I have read so many ppl who just have been through so much, that it reminds me of myself years ago.

My mom emotionally and mentally abuse me for years, I still struggle today with not believing that I am the awful names she called me, or that she could tell such terrible lies about me. My father was an alcoholic, and would not come home until 4 in the morning. Many times I was physically pulled into an argument so they could show the other person how badly they were hurting me. -- I lost my virginity to date **** and faced it alone. My siblings had moved on by that time and did not look back. -- My boyfriend at the time convinced me that I was damaged and that I was luck to have him because no one else would want me. Which made me very obedient to him, but that also meant that I received severe beatings when I did not please him, or if I did not please the friend he turned me over too. My parents never questions why I wore scarves and long sleeves in August. He left me when we thought that I was pregnant and never returned, he never found out that I wasn't pregnant. -- I struggled with drugs. -- Got myself clean, and found a man willing to marry this mess -- He cheated on me 8 times leaving me for number 6 coming back and leaving again for number 8, thankfully he did not come back. -- I spent a few years getting myself back together when I met my current husband. He had a son, my eldest son, and his wife left the both of them. I have since adopted this child and he is mine. I was always told that I was sterile, but yet became pregnant 2 times. and well you know the struggle we just faced. -- a few years ago I went blind, literally overnight. It was the scariest thing I have ever faced. I was told that it was either a brain tumor or a brain aneurysm. But we did not have insurance, as many small business owners face, and the testing and treatment I needed was with held because we could not pay up front the full amount for the test. I stayed blind on and off for a few months until we saved the money to get the test done. The whole time believing that I would most likely die within the year. I ended up not having a tumor or aneurysm and have made a full recovery.

During that time that I was trying to pull my life together I made the choice to not be a victim of my life anymore. I had no control what happened to me as a child, which is always the case when it involves a child, but I did have control over how I let my experiences made me feel. I still feel the pain sometimes when I really ponder upon it, but overall, these ppl have hurt me enough and I am not allowing them to continue to hurt me. Luka, I know how you feel when you said that you can't handle being told I love you and good things. I am the same way. But it is the truth. I have found that the fastest way to depression is to concentrate on my life. I think that when we spend too much time looking inward, we loose perspective. I fine that looking outg ward, as in volunteering, or looking upward, to God, does wonders to remind me that I am worthy and not the lies that life has told me. That is why I offer advice, and try so hard to reach ppl. I just know that they have more control then they think, that there is help out there and it works, and to maybe give them the encouragement to look beyond their lives to see the truth about themselves and their lives. I don't keep a lot of ppl close to me, but I have touched many lives. Hopefully this spoke to someone. Thanks for listening.

[Sunset Dreamer]

hugs valley-girl we have more in common than I ever knew. I'll tell you about it in private some day. I'm blessed to have met you... you tell me I'm strong...well, you are just as strong.