wheres the answer ?

themauler · 08-31-2007, 12:21 PM

tell me how to motivate a kid thats unmotivatable

ive done all thats humanly possible to motivate my kid to get out and make a life for himself im at the point where im considering tossing him out on his butt

i dont think this is the way to go but i can only take so much im at then breaking point

whats your take on this subject ? im open to suggestions

Valley-Girl · 08-31-2007, 12:23 PM

Check out the home school thread that sunset started. I answered you there. If you want you can have a mod move it to here. Good luck hun.

themauler · 08-31-2007, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Valley-Girl

Check out the home school thread that sunset started. I answered you there. If you want you can have a mod move it to here. Good luck hun.

he already has his diploma just wont go out and work he rather get high and sleep in and eat my food and watch spongebob lol

Valley-Girl · 08-31-2007, 12:46 PM

Two words American Tourister.

Sometimes they will continue to do that until they have no choice.

For those of you going "huh, America Tourister

" It is a brand of luggage.

Charise · 08-31-2007, 01:00 PM

First thing Mauler... take a DEEP breath.

Then think before you do something you might regret.
Hide the weed.

Lock up the television(s). Spongebob???

Consider this and it's just my opinion... his maturity
level may be below his age level because of "things".

Other than my thoughts and prayers for you... GOOD LUCK!

Alfie · 08-31-2007, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by themauler

he already has his diploma just wont go out and work he rather get high and sleep in and eat my food and watch spongebob lol

I love Spongebob no pants

seriously though MAULER TOUGH LOVE WORKS, TOSS HIS ASS OUT !

themauler · 08-31-2007, 01:18 PM

ahhh i feel the love

as for your comments charise i do hide the weed he gets his own

his maturity level is a negative 3 does that give you some insight

Sunset Dreamer · 08-31-2007, 01:34 PM

Actions speak louder than words. Parenting with love and logic for teens is an amazing book, but you have to be willing to follow through with the advice and suggestions in it. It's written by Foster and Cline. Making empty threats of kicking someone out will not work. The consequences need to be something that you are able to control and make sure it gets done. Sometimes that might mean housework

However, instead of complaining that it isn't done right, you need to be by his side doing it with him, or close your mouth, let him do it his way, and just be thankful that he did it at all. Praise the good, ignore what you can of the bad. Try not to pick on every little thing that he does, and instead discipline only what you feel is important. Let go of some of the control and put it back on him. Let him make choices and feel the consequences of those choices. Most importantly, take care of yourself first. Understand that he is an adult in the eyes of the law and that you can not control everything he does. Take time out for you. Go to the park, take a long drive, write a letter... do whatever you can to make yourself feel better. You can't help him if you are stressed out. As a parent, we want our children happy and tend to do what it takes to make them happy. However, the reality of the situation is ...they need to make themselves happy. Best of luck to you.... I really hope you can find something that works to help ease your stress and to motivate your son. Gives you that

look. I'm always around.

themauler · 08-31-2007, 05:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunset Dreamer

Actions speak louder than words. Parenting with love and logic for teens is an amazing book, but you have to be willing to follow through with the advice and suggestions in it. It's written by Foster and Cline. Making empty threats of kicking someone out will not work. The consequences need to be something that you are able to control and make sure it gets done. Sometimes that might mean housework

However, instead of complaining that it isn't done right, you need to be by his side doing it with him, or close your mouth, let him do it his way, and just be thankful that he did it at all. Praise the good, ignore what you can of the bad. Try not to pick on every little thing that he does, and instead discipline only what you feel is important. Let go of some of the control and put it back on him. Let him make choices and feel the consequences of those choices. Most importantly, take care of yourself first. Understand that he is an adult in the eyes of the law and that you can not control everything he does. Take time out for you. Go to the park, take a long drive, write a letter... do whatever you can to make yourself feel better. You can't help him if you are stressed out. As a parent, we want our children happy and tend to do what it takes to make them happy. However, the reality of the situation is ...they need to make themselves happy. Best of luck to you.... I really hope you can find something that works to help ease your stress and to motivate your son. Gives you that

look. I'm always around.

thats all the motivation i need

**Jenna** · 08-31-2007, 05:58 PM

How old is your son?