Marriage SUCKS!

[luna423]

Alright, I'm just going to put it out there. I have been married for a little over a year and I hate it! When I got engaged I kept thinking, "this is going to be wonderful. I finally get to spend my life with him." Well, this sucks! We agreed on a lot more when we were just "boyfriend and girlfriend." Now, it seems like he thinks that since he "has me" that he can do whatever the f*#! he wants! I'm not sure if I stated this earlier, but the whole reason I signed up for chatavenue.com, is because he is consuming himself online with Titan Talk.
Sure I can be a b!tc#, but that's only because I'm being ignored most of the time. I think he likes his online friends better than anyone; including me. I've considered leaving him plenty of times, but I have too many responsibilities. I have the house in my name, his truck in my name, most of the utilities in my name, etc. What the hell am I supposed to do? I have a lot of aspirations. I would like to become a police officer, then make my way up to something federal. With something like that, I am going to need a lot of support and financial backup, which I don't have. He doesn't seem like he cares what happens with his life, which automatically effects mine. I have almost lost faith in us and I don't know what to do. Anyone have any suggestions?

[Who]

depending on where you live theres laws that would benefit you if you left him.

talk to a lawyer before you do anything rash.

and dont waste your life, cause in 10 years you wont be happy and you wont be a spring chicken either.

[Sunset Dreamer]

sorry you aren't happy *hugs you* All I can say... follow your dreams and live your life for yourself. Do what you need to do in order for you to be happy... before its too late

*sighs*

[themauler]

well if its that bad then suggest counseling and if he chooses not too, leave his ass... follow your dreams.. achieve your dreams... then get married i mean wtf... just handle it 4 gods shake.. i do wish you well and btw if you do become a cop please dont bust me

>> life is short, love is difficult, as is all things just take it step by step<<

[Sunset Dreamer]

Okay Ihave to respond to that one Love isn't difficult... loving is easy. It's everything else in life that makes things difficult...

[SIMMERING]

Change everything to his name. If he wonders why tell him Im leaving your lazy ass. If he cant afford it in his name. Who cares. Sell the fker. Its in your name right!!! Sorry hun but its not love. Its not going to work.

TRUE LOVE is EASY. I agree with you Dreamer.

[DAJHOUSIE]

Originally Posted by luna423

Alright, I'm just going to put it out there. I have been married for a little over a year and I hate it! When I got engaged I kept thinking, "this is going to be wonderful. I finally get to spend my life with him." Well, this sucks! We agreed on a lot more when we were just "boyfriend and girlfriend." Now, it seems like he thinks that since he "has me" that he can do whatever the f*#! he wants! I'm not sure if I stated this earlier, but the whole reason I signed up for chatavenue.com, is because he is consuming himself online with Titan Talk.
Sure I can be a b!tc#, but that's only because I'm being ignored most of the time. I think he likes his online friends better than anyone; including me. I've considered leaving him plenty of times, but I have too many responsibilities. I have the house in my name, his truck in my name, most of the utilities in my name, etc. What the hell am I supposed to do? I have a lot of aspirations. I would like to become a police officer, then make my way up to something federal. With something like that, I am going to need a lot of support and financial backup, which I don't have. He doesn't seem like he cares what happens with his life, which automatically effects mine. I have almost lost faith in us and I don't know what to do. Anyone have any suggestions?

you should tell us more. How old are you? However, he is doing his THING and now you should do yours. Like going out to meet friends and see where that leads to.

[AnGeL_EyEs42]

Originally Posted by SIMMERING

Change everything to his name. If he wonders why tell him Im leaving your lazy ass. If he cant afford it in his name. Who cares. Sell the fker. Its in your name right!!! Sorry hun but its not love. Its not going to work.

TRUE LOVE is EASY. I agree with you Dreamer.

I totally agree with this......
True love is easy.... If he was in love with you......He wouldn't be doin the things he is..... Move on do not spend your life unhappy....I would consider getting your life in order, starting over is not easy, but staying with someone that don't love you is just goin to make you miserable...
Sometimes we have to put off our dreams and get other things in order first.... It never is easy starting over, but it can be done if you want to bad enough....

[Jenna]

lololol ffs marriage does not suck.
I think a lot of people forget nothing is perfect in life.
that includes marriage.
Ive been with my husband for almost 9 years now.
We hate each other
we love each other
we cant stand each other
and we cant live without one another.
we fight.. we laugh
We've been through hell and made it back out together.
I think you have to remember its ok to argue, fight, disagree
Nobody will ever see eye to eye all the time.


But you married him for a reason.. at the time you both saw something in each other that made you want to spend your lives together forever.
I think you're just blinded right now by all the bad things that are going on < and yeah sometimes they out weight the good but in the end at least for me
I know no matter what hes my soul mate and thats something I saw in him from day one.
Plus hes got mad money

Oh and true love IS NOT EASY!
true love is hard as hell
thats when you know its the real deal

[Starfire]

If you wanted a nice easy ride you should have taken the spinning teacups of single life not the rampaging rollercoaster of marriage.