confused and curious

big ali · 01-10-2008, 10:40 AM

how do you know if youare bi strait or what ever? I am realy confused some one please give me some advice i asked a few people online befor and all the where interested in was s*x. so can some one give me some good advice please

**Red Venus Moon** · 01-10-2008, 10:46 AM

I read your profile and your 17... I might suggest you seek out a counselor or professional therapist whom you feel comfortable talking to. Maybe work through your sexuality with them and come to a discorvery on your own. Many people at your age are confused with what "they want" or what they "think" they should want. Always be true to yourself and be open to your developing sexuality. At your age, you don't need to label yourself yet on what your preferance is... just take some time with it!

Starfire · 01-10-2008, 11:16 AM

If you are sexually attracted only to those of the opposite gender, you are straight. If you are sexually attracted to those of both genders, you are bi-sexual. If you are sexually attracted only to those of your own gender, you are gay. This is the only way I can think of to describe it. Hope it helps, or that someone describes it better than I can.

Luka · 01-10-2008, 11:32 AM

You'll find out in due time. At your age, and even mine, hormones will be all over the place. And i'm only a year older than you. I'm gay, I decided.. hey, but only one lucky lady I get the horn for, haha, MARIAH.

Just give it time, or you could always follow your instincts. Do you have feelings for both genders, or just the one? Maybe once you have a sexual partner (if you've not already had one) you'll be more certain of what it is you really want, albeit man or woman.

Just wear a condom.

**Krass** · 01-10-2008, 03:00 PM

Just remember when thinking things over, that gay is wrong.

**Red Venus Moon** · 01-10-2008, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Krass

Just remember when thinking things over, that gay is wrong.

they are a young... leave em be please

**PhillyStorm** · 01-10-2008, 03:07 PM

Krass, your a real jerk, ya know that?

Listen hun, like everyone above has said before me, it takes time to really figure out who you are. maybe asking people online is not the best idea, but if you feel it helps, then okay. I think you either need to talk to a therapist or even a close friend you see daily and talk to them about it. I knew I was gay when I was about 13 years old and you know what, it might have been the best thing that happened to me because it shaped me in to who I am today. I love myself and people still love me for being honest to them and especially to myself. If you are attracted or even get sexual tendenices for the same gender as yourself, then you are gay. Alot of people at your age are confused and you know what, it is not a bad thing. You are now just starting to find out things about yourself that you never knew existed. I am in no way saying to you "BE GAY!" because it is not my position to tell you what to be. What I am saying is that you need to follow what your gut tells you and also follow where your heart truly lies. I hope I or the others were able to help you in any way, shape or form. If not then I wish you luck in finding the solution to your question. Good luck.

back from hell · 01-11-2008, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by big ali

how do you know if youare bi strait or what ever? I am realy confused some one please give me some advice i asked a few people online befor and all the where interested in was s*x. so can some one give me some good advice please

You just know, its an instinct as to what you are i guess lol

The Voice · 01-11-2008, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by big ali

how do you know if youare bi strait or what ever? I am realy confused some one please give me some advice i asked a few people online befor and all the where interested in was s*x. so can some one give me some good advice please

I was attracted to males as a child and that's been the case my whole life, but I guess not everybody is the same.

I don't think you should worry about it right now, since you don't seem to be ready for a relationship anyway. You have plenty of time to discover yourself. And it's not fair to share yourself with someone when you're not even sure what it is you're sharing.

big ali · 01-11-2008, 09:13 AM

thankes for all your advice i will take it on bord you all seem very nice people i am atracted to both sexes i think i just cant tell me friends because they are all shalow selfish pigs that would only judge me and spread stuff they are social dogs that will try to tair me to shreds and i dont know how much i could take because of personal reasons and family deaths