Bisexuality has been a bit of a fashion.

[julialily]

While most people are more open minded nowadays, bisexuals can still come under fire from both gay and straight people.

There's no denying that bisexuality has been a bit of a fashion statement in recent years. Let's face it, if you never go out with anyone of the same gender it won't really be questioned. But don't genuine bisexuals deserve a bit more respect than tags like “hetero-flexible” and “fence sitter” suggest?

Let's remember that the rainbow flag is supposed to be a symbol of diversity, we're not all gay and straight. If I went into my local gay club there would be a few dirty looks as I'm currently going out with someone of the opposite gender. Obviously, it's some sort of statement. It couldn't just be that I swing both ways.

There's a great deal of sexual and sexuality politics. For example, I've seen bi girls insisting they are gay and find men repulsive when they're going out with a girl. It seems some sections of the gay community are far happier to accept “properly” gay people that bisexuals. While I don't want to tar every gay person with the same brush, there are a number of people that think if you're bisexual you've just not decided yet.

Superficially, some would say bisexual people have it easier than gay people as they have the “option” of living a straight life. As if your sexuality is a lifestyle choice. It seems bizarre that a community that is generally so accepting still holds some prejudice. Why should I feel I have to apologies for not being “fully” gay?

Thankfully, many people are open minded and happy to accept you for who you are. Not every gay person is militant and believes you're letting the side down by going out with someone of the opposite gender. And many people acknowledge that sexuality can be fluid. A gay person may be attracted to someone of the opposite gender in the same way a straight person could find a spark with one particular person of the same ***. We are not just our sexuality, so let's start being inclusive and stop creating barriers.

[Danse Macabre]

Bout bloody time some one said it the amount of guys who would give me winks and smoochy faces when I told them I was bi " yes a great chance at having a 3some" was their way of thinking. Neither the gay community nor the straight one are excepting of us I am just lucky that I found someone who is and didnt think of it as a way to expand his s3xual knowledge

[Luka]

I don't believe for a second you'd get dirty looks for going into a gay club if you're straight.
Far as I know, the majority of straight people go to gay bars/clubs, because it's a much friendlier environment and no-one cares. My aunt went with my uncle and got a bottle of champagne bought for her because she wore a perfume he liked.

Yet I do agree you get the snotty little poofs who think they're superior. Handbag slap is all you need to give them.

As for bisexual people having an ''option'', I don't believe that. Yeah, they can choose, but so can straight/gay people choose who they want to be with. We all have choices, and yes you can 'choose' not to be in order to hide yourself, but lying to yourself isn't such a good thing.

I get attracted to women, doesn't mean I wanna bang them though. I love women. Just not in the way I'd love a man. Women have more respect from me than any man does. Period.

[PhillyStorm]

Originally Posted by julialily

While most people are more open minded nowadays, bisexuals can still come under fire from both gay and straight people.

It is true. Many people that I have some in contact with say that bisexuals are greedy and that they need to choose either one or another. I think that in some people, they genuinly love the best of both worlds and I honestly see nothing wrong with it and wonder why they get bashed at all for liking who they like.

There's no denying that bisexuality has been a bit of a fashion statement in recent years. Let's face it, if you never go out with anyone of the same gender it won't really be questioned. But don't genuine bisexuals deserve a bit more respect than tags like “hetero-flexible” and “fence sitter” suggest?

I guess you could call it a fashion statement, but it is a trend that has grown in many people. It won't be questioned because so many people are coming out that they are gay and the gay community is now being more accepted because of the number of people coming out. People are used to homosexuality in both genders. Ummmmm... I believe everyone should have the same amount of respect given and recieved whether the person be gay, straight, transgender, etc...

Let's remember that the rainbow flag is supposed to be a symbol of diversity, we're not all gay and straight. If I went into my local gay club there would be a few dirty looks as I'm currently going out with someone of the opposite gender. Obviously, it's some sort of statement. It couldn't just be that I swing both ways.

The rainbow flag not only is symbol for diversity, but is also a peace symbol aswell. That flag means more than "we are different, hear us roar!", it also means that we are united and we are people like everyone else and would like to be respected just as if we were normal people. The rainbow flag has been more accepted and has been more known throughout the world because of what it symbolizes, and what it symbolized is the unity and the coming out of different people in general. Well, they would give you dirty looks because of the fact that you are going to a gay bar with the opposite gender and they expect you to go with soemone who is the same gender as yourself. I guess, if you wanted to see it that way, then yes, that would be a good way to make a statement. That only shows that you like who you like and noone can change it.

There's a great deal of sexual and sexuality politics. For example, I've seen bi girls insisting they are gay and find men repulsive when they're going out with a girl. It seems some sections of the gay community are far happier to accept “properly” gay people that bisexuals. While I don't want to tar every gay person with the same brush, there are a number of people that think if you're bisexual you've just not decided yet.

It really is true what you say. In my mind, Bi people are just happy with both sides of the spectrum. They love the best of both worlds and they can't help that. They are not greedy nor are they unsure of who and what they are, they just love both. Plain and simple.

Superficially, some would say bisexual people have it easier than gay people as they have the “option” of living a straight life. As if your sexuality is a lifestyle choice. It seems bizarre that a community that is generally so accepting still holds some prejudice. Why should I feel I have to apologies for not being “fully” gay?

lmao. I guess they live easier ONLY because they can choose to like the opposite gender, but I myself as a gay male am very, very happy with who I am, and have the most wonderful friends in the world. The accept me for me and that is what true friends are. I do not believe it is a choice, but a feeling inside someone that tells them who to love and why they love them. You don't have to apologize for anything you do in life, especially if it is a choice of your sexuality. It is not who you like in life, it is the person inside yourself that people will love.

Thankfully, many people are open minded and happy to accept you for who you are. Not every gay person is militant and believes you're letting the side down by going out with someone of the opposite gender. And many people acknowledge that sexuality can be fluid. A gay person may be attracted to someone of the opposite gender in the same way a straight person could find a spark with one particular person of the same ***. We are not just our sexuality, so let's start being inclusive and stop creating barriers.

Exactly right. They accept you for you and that is the greatest you could ever ask for. If tehy do not choose to accept you then fu/ck 'em. You dont need them. That is how I think most of the time. I know of many straight people who find the same gender attractive and hey, they could even think about being with the same gender, but it does no make them gay, it makes them curious. They ask questions and you answer them. Give them knowledge and they will understand you more and understand that it is your heart that determines who you are, not your lust drive.

I loved your post and was very happy to post back to you. Wonderful job.

Originally Posted by Luka

I don't believe for a second you'd get dirty looks for going into a gay club if you're straight.
Far as I know, the majority of straight people go to gay bars/clubs, because it's a much friendlier environment and no-one cares. My aunt went with my uncle and got a bottle of champagne bought for her because she wore a perfume he liked.

Oh trust me you do. I went to clubs before and got dirty looks just because Ii went with a whole group of my friends who were girls.

People go to gay cluns to hook up and have a good time or even a one night stand. I've to too many clubs to not know what goes on there. That is why I no longer go. It is not fun for me to just hook up with people. I love to go to just dance.

Yet I do agree you get the snotty little poofs who think they're superior. Handbag slap is all you need to give them.

I guess you'd have the biggest hangboag Mrs. Diva. LOL

As for bisexual people having an ''option'', I don't believe that. Yeah, they can choose, but so can straight/gay people choose who they want to be with. We all have choices, and yes you can 'choose' not to be in order to hide yourself, but lying to yourself isn't such a good thing.

Well that is what he is trying to say. He is saying that Bi people can choose because the love the best of both worlds. As for you and I, we cannot choose because we have already chosen and I do not think I would ever have straight tendencies. Ever.

I get attracted to women, doesn't mean I wanna bang them though. I love women. Just not in the way I'd love a man. Women have more respect from me than any man does. Period.

Women are like my best friend and I am sorry to say it, but I have more in common in a woman then a man because I actually like to talk about my feelings and just talk about anything and men do not. That is why alot of gay relationships hardly work out and that is because of lack or communication.

[Phantom]

My mother, of the straight community is one of the bi-haters. She has two lesbian daughters but will not abide by bisexuals and i dont know why.. i think bi people have the exact same rights as gay or straight they just happen to not go for a set gender. good for them i reckon.

people really should be more accepting though. poopheads.

[Who]

i know a lot of people who think bisexuals are simply greedy, sounds stupid to me but whatever.

theres also a vast range of people straight and gay who wont date someone whos bi because they think they wont be able to stay in a monogomouys relationship when they have attraction to both sexes.

[Helli()n]

All gay people will burn in hell.

Only kidding..not really. :|

[XluWantsYourMom]

Who in this world IS fully gay, or fully straight. You do not have control over who you fall in love with? If you say you're 100% straight, what if the one person for you is of the same ***, most likely you will not be able to resist being with them... ;\ But thats just my opinion.

[Helli()n]

Everyone wants to **** the attractive one. The thing is, some people think having it off with their own *** is acceptable. Others dont and stick to the opposite. Who's right?

Depends on yourself and your own beliefs.

"If you feel ashamed by something you shouldn't do it"

And this whole bisexual thing, who gives a ****? if your life is so shallow that you think being bisexual or gay is the best thing or option to take in your life to socially fit in or be accepted. So be it.

The only people we deceive is ourselves.

[Who]

Originally Posted by XluWantsYourMom

Who in this world IS fully gay, or fully straight. You do not have control over who you fall in love with? If you say you're 100% straight, what if the one person for you is of the same ***, most likely you will not be able to resist being with them... ;\ But thats just my opinion.

the kinsey scale is pretty well accepted.

take a look.