Coming Out

[TaylorComingOut]

Hi Everyone

Well....Just quick intro....My name is Taylor, I'm from the UK, and I've decided to come out. I'm 21 and have known since I was about six, and I've decided it's about time. The problem is, I'm completely alone in this, I don't know anybody who's ever been through it, and I don't have anybody I can talk to about it. So...I've decided to start an (anonymous) online quest, to discuss and share my story as I start to come out to people.

So really I'm looking for any help, support, and advice. Literally anything is welcome

I'd also really appreciate it if anyone who'd care to would look at my blog and offer advice -

Thanks

Taylor xx

[FredOnToast]

Originally Posted by TaylorComingOut

Hi Everyone

Well....Just quick intro....My name is Taylor, I'm from the UK, and I've decided to come out. I'm 21 and have known since I was about six, and I've decided it's about time. The problem is, I'm completely alone in this, I don't know anybody who's ever been through it, and I don't have anybody I can talk to about it. So...I've decided to start an (anonymous) online quest, to discuss and share my story as I start to come out to people.

So really I'm looking for any help, support, and advice. Literally anything is welcome

I'd also really appreciate it if anyone who'd care to would look at my blog and offer advice -

Thanks

Taylor xx

Hi Taylor,

First of all I'd like to say welcome to the forums...

You are a very brave guy coming out, and it's never an easy thing to do.

Unfortunately it's different for everyone so no specific advice can be given.

However I can share what I did.

It was in the evening and my Mum and I were chatting about Gay people and celebrities and then she said about how if any of us ever turned out to be gay then she would be proud of us etc (I think she knew tbh) and I just said "You know what Mum, I'm gay" and went red, and she said she was proud etc, and we had a chat and it was real nice to have the weight off my back.
I never really told my dad, it sorta leaked out.

I beleive that I'm quite lucky with the acceptance my parents had, but some arent quite as.

anyway,

Advice for you:

Do it when you feel comfortable enough to, and not when you feel forced to.

Don't get into a mindset where you think "OMG they are gonna think I'm a freak", keep positive.

You are who you are, if they (your parents or friends etc.) do find it upsetting and have a go, stand up for yourself! You are your own person!

Don't get upset if they don't like it, it is probably just shock and they will come round to it.

If you feel unsure with your sexuality, then wait until you are sure. No point putting them and yourself through what might be a bad experience, only to find out you crave some boobs and a hairy hole.

and most important of all:

Good luck, and I wish the best for you.

[The Voice]

Originally Posted by TaylorComingOut

Hi Everyone

Well....Just quick intro....My name is Taylor, I'm from the UK, and I've decided to come out. I'm 21 and have known since I was about six, and I've decided it's about time. The problem is, I'm completely alone in this, I don't know anybody who's ever been through it, and I don't have anybody I can talk to about it. So...I've decided to start an (anonymous) online quest, to discuss and share my story as I start to come out to people.

So really I'm looking for any help, support, and advice. Literally anything is welcome

I'd also really appreciate it if anyone who'd care to would look at my blog and offer advice -

Thanks

Taylor xx

I had the same problem. I didn't know any other gay people and there was nobody I felt comfortable coming out to. The internet was extremely helpful because it allowed me to communicate with people like me. By learning about them, I was able to understand myself a lot better.

If you have any specific questions, just ask.

Good luck to you.


Edit: Starfire, how are you "removing a link" when there isn't even a link there? The site has censored it, making it simply text.

[Starfire]

Originally Posted by The Voice

I had the same problem. I didn't know any other gay people and there was nobody I felt comfortable coming out to. The internet was extremely helpful because it allowed me to communicate with people like me. By learning about them, I was able to understand myself a lot better.

If you have any specific questions, just ask.

Good luck to you.


Edit: Starfire, how are you "removing a link" when there isn't even a link there? The site has censored it, making it simply text.

It's still got a part of the webaddy on it so I removed it. If you feel it was wrong please feel free to contact Jenna.

[PhillyStorm]

I, for once, am impressed with your post Fred. Great going.


Taylor, I for one would like to aswell welcome you to chat-avenue and forums. It is not always easy coming out but it is something that is inside of you to do because it releases alot of weight from your shoulders almost like a relieving feeling of accomplishment. I suppose your case is a bit more complicated than that because of the fact that you are not able to share with anyone your true feelings and your true self nor does anyone close to know or have gone through something similar.

I aswell knew at an early age that I was gay and did not come out to my family and friends until I was about 13 years old. I consider myself very lucky because of the fact that everyone accepted who I was and embraced me for telling them one of the hardest things I could have ever told anyone. It was a warm feeling when I told them and you have no idea how much of a relieving feeling it was to just share who I was as a person to the people I loved. Which brings me to a point. Just because none of your friends or family have been through this sort of thing before, does not mean that they will disown you or look at you with a blank face wondering what in hell you are talking about. If the people in your life love you and or care for you, they will understand and accept who you are. Just because you prefer different things, does not mean you, as a person, change entirely.

Do as Toast said, come out when you feel comfortable to share with other and when you know it might be that right time to "spill the beans" as they say. lol. Always keep a level head when you are ready to come out. Never think negatively because it will only cause you to give in to fear and that is not want you want.

When you do decide to tell your family and friends and they have their opinions and or dislikes about it, do not get upset. It is only natural they they will be scared for you and want the best for you. Of course they will be shocked, but they will come around and talk to you about it in the way they know that is comfortable for them. Give them time to adjust.

Most importantly Taylor, I wish you all the luck in the world and courage. Courage to look past everyone who will talk negative about you or who you are and courage to stand up for who you are and say "Hey!, this is me. Take me as I am or not at all." Most importantly, you need to love yourself before others can. Make sure you have a positive outlook on yourself and others will follow. Good luck to you and please feel free to come back to forums.

[The Voice]

Originally Posted by Starfire

It's still got a part of the webaddy on it so I removed it. If you feel it was wrong please feel free to contact Jenna.

I don't feel it was wrong. I'm just picking on your explanation. Sorry I forgot to add the lol at the end.

-clicks "link" and doesn't go anywhere-

Get it?

[Starfire]

Originally Posted by The Voice

I don't feel it was wrong. I'm just picking on your explanation. Sorry I forgot to add the lol at the end.

-clicks "link" and doesn't go anywhere-

Get it?

Nope. too tired. Going to bed. Night night

[Aquilla]

Originally Posted by TaylorComingOut

Hi Everyone

Well....Just quick intro....My name is Taylor, I'm from the UK, and I've decided to come out. I'm 21 and have known since I was about six, and I've decided it's about time. The problem is, I'm completely alone in this, I don't know anybody who's ever been through it, and I don't have anybody I can talk to about it. So...I've decided to start an (anonymous) online quest, to discuss and share my story as I start to come out to people.

So really I'm looking for any help, support, and advice. Literally anything is welcome

I'd also really appreciate it if anyone who'd care to would look at my blog and offer advice -

Thanks

Taylor xx

Can't add much more to what Fred & Philly has said, save to say good luck, and be patient.

I wish you well!

[toby]

Most important thing here is taylor, ONLY come out when you are ready not what anyone tells ya be true to ya self and face coming out for the right reasons,at the end of the day only you can say when the time is right .

Btw I told my mum who i was very close to and sadly died last year, but still remember that day i said mum im gay she replied Hell boi I know and she gave me the biggest hugg ya could have, it was easy for me and ano its different for each an every one but hey when ya do come out its a great relief lol.
best of luck taylor and do it when ya ready and only then because you will know the time to do it believe me love tobes xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Miss Undertaker]

Wow. Six is the same age I decided I was bisexual. It was a choice for me. I decided that for me, love has nothing to do with the physical things. Therefore, I would never judge a person by what they have in their pants. Male, female, doesn't matter. You're a human being. If you're a good person, I can love you. Until I was about 13, only a few people knew. Then I started telling some of my friends in my Junior High School. Eventually, everyone knew. Now my family knows, and everyone I meet finds out within the first day of knowing me. The only reason I kept it a secret was because I knew some people would be *******s and say that I'm too young to know my sexuality. Bull****. But after a while I stopped caring what they thought. It was too much of an effort to hide it just because other people are ignorant and close minded.