Forbidden Love

Kizmet25 · 07-17-2008, 01:44 PM

Hi All

, I have a bit of a tricky situation going on at the moment. I'm 25 and currently studying psychology at university. I have developed feelings towards my tutor who is an older woman and a lesbian in a relationship. I know she has feelings for me and my closest friends at uni agree. I've recently met someone myself and know it would be best to just forget about a silly crush but I can't simply switch these feelings off and don't particularly want to nor would I want to encourage someone to risk their relationship or employment for that matter! I bought her roses and chocolates for her birthday with a card saying age is just a number LOL I was still a little drunk from a heavy night of drinking the day before. She gave me a glowing reference for a future employers and now we're separated for the summer break. I'm not immature or naive nor am I some sort of player. The scenario is similar to the film 'loving annebelle'. She is a very special person to me and we connect life is too short to live unfulfilled and let opportunities slip away! Please be open minded and don't copycat all the posts which simply condem me as that's too easy and pointless Any advice, tips or similar stories welcome.

Luka · 07-17-2008, 03:10 PM

Bang her then bribe her for top marks.

Kizmet25 · 07-17-2008, 03:41 PM

Tho she has made jokes about negotiating as she advised me to do just that with the 3rd year uni lesbians for all the old books and research, in jest of course! However when I hinted that I may have kissed one of them she was insistant on discovering who. When I wouldn't talk she said she'd find out! Then at a leaving party my ex girl shouted "You're being talked about" to me whan I turned around I discovered the tutor had been trying to pry for info. We communicate through undertones and banter, I sometimes get a little nervous as does she. What should I do seeing as I can't simply just bang her! I'd never bribe her for higher marks that immoral

LOL seriously what should I do? ? ?

Who · 07-17-2008, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Kizmet25

Hi All

, I don't particularly want to nor would I want to encourage someone to risk their relationship or employment for that matter![/B][/I]

theres your answer.

a crush is a crush.

but trying to make something out of it and potentially ruining their relationship with another person and their job is absolutely wrong and selfish.

Kizmet25 · 07-17-2008, 04:28 PM

What if she's not to happy in her relationship

because she has wondering eyes now! I don't know her partner or owe her anything and if the tutor decides to break it off with her then she's a free agent. The crush is not one sided and if no one in work knows what harm can it do?

Propaganda · 07-17-2008, 04:32 PM

"Is this like the love between a man and a woman or the love a man has for a fine cigar? hee hee hee heh " :freak .. What?

Who · 07-17-2008, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Kizmet25

What if she's not to happy in her relationship

because she has wondering eyes now! I don't know her partner or owe her anything and if the tutor decides to break it off with her then she's a free agent. The crush is not one sided and if no one in work knows what harm can it do?

everyone has doubts about their relationship when someone else comes snuggling up to them.

if she breaks up with her lover because of you thats so very very wrong.

to me, it sounds like a crush and youre stretching your new found wings. because the chase is more exciting then the actual relationship for some people.

this tutor is a challenge. but if you take it on you clearly have no morals and are only thinking of yourself.

Kizmet25 · 07-17-2008, 04:49 PM

If she is unhappy she is FREE to leave. If she did leave because her feeling for me encouraged that it still wouldn't be my fault but highlight the fact that she wasn't happy with her partner. I have been cheated on in the past and never blamed the other lover because they owe me nothing and everyone is FREE! as for my partner who cheated well it takes two to mess up a relationship and if my partner wasn't happy with me and could not fix things then I'm glad they have left and hope we're both happier elsewhere

. It is NOT selfish to fall in love with someone.

Who · 07-17-2008, 04:58 PM

wow.

to not blame someone for cheating on you, shows me what kind of person you are. and thats crazy.

go for it, fuck up lives. have fun.

but if you already have this situation under control why were you asking for advice in a forum...and then not listening to it?

nvm. dont answer that. i have better things to go read then sorid lesbianonic love triangles.

Kizmet25 · 07-17-2008, 05:19 PM

Listen, just because I question your opinion or challenge your thinking it does not mean you have to be RUDE and throw a hissy fit

! Sounds to me like you are on some moral high horse and need to learn to conduct yourself intelligently when debating. I never insulted you and don't appreciate being insulted either. Perhaps you have a sore point about an ex who cheated on you and are not willing to have more of an open mind.
I'm not CRAZY to see things from many different points of view and both understand and forgive my ex. Stop trying to HAMMER your point home and FORCE

me to agree with YOUR thinking. I appreciate feedback when it is not rude or preaching.

*Note to other readers, please be more open minded and polite than this person was when replying to my post so that we may have a constructive and positive exchange of ideas even if you don't agree with my views, thank you