Does anyone else who is GLB use chat to hide from their lonilness ?

[eyes2die4]

I find that i use chat as an means of escape to hide away from my inner pain and lonliness . I find it hard to keep friends, as i have rescently been dumped by my gf which really dosen't help and i've become angry and keep losing it with people any advice people ? i'm just not enjoying my life and need to snap myself out of this depression ! so when i use chat it temperarily helps me escape from myself

[Who]

using a chatroom to supplement for having real relationships will never help you feel fulfilled.

chat is (supposed to be) a place to meet other gay people from around the world, make friends and learn about different issues they may face.

i recomend, that you keep your relationships strictly to people you meet at school, or the gym, or anywhere else. and use chat for fun. you will encounter a lot less heart ache that way.

[eyes2die4]

I don't become attached to people on the net i'm way past that stage now I idid use to. I just find it hard to be friends with people in reality as i'm very sensetive and end up misinterpreting how people are toward me i'll get there I jst have to perservere with myself thats all

[Who]

Originally Posted by eyes2die4

I don't become attached to people on the net i'm way past that stage now I idid use to. I just find it hard to be friends with people in reality as i'm very sensetive and end up misinterpreting how people are toward me i'll get there I jst have to perservere with myself thats all

but having friends in a chatroom will only make that worse.

the only way to get over your problem of being overly sensative is to go out and be with people.

[eyes2die4]

Yes i'm hearing you i'm just gonna have to be brave and face the world

[Who]

its good that you see that.

but nothing changes if you dont change.

[Beautiful_Becca]

It is so much easier to make friends if you stay cheerful. In times of trouble just think of something that will make you happy, and always wear a smile. I find people dont judge if you are very polite and friendly. Well... most people anyways. There are still that select few.

[eyes2die4]

Yes i'm trying with the positive mental attitude stuff just with all situations in life you have a good and not so good days. I must say the weekends are the most difficult time for me i kno with time i'll get stronger its just trying to get through thanks for all your advice people much appreciated big hugs x

[PhillyStorm]

Good thread.

[Luka]

Was she your first girlfriend? If so, the first cut is always the deepest, and will take some time to get over her. Same with every relationship. There's always unanswered questions.
I still have unanswered questions from my ex-boyfriend from two years ago and my ex-fiance this year. But what I've learned is .. that there's someone out there for you, and that time's a great healer.
The chatroom is a great way of making friends as are these Forums. But remember to be cautious when talking to people, some people use deceit in order to befriend someone whilst you're unaware of it. Real, genuine friends are hard to find but they're worth keeping and forever a friend, it's a shame they're not everywhere.

Why are the weekends hard? I don't know how old you are, but if you're a teen, go out and do what responsible teenagers do. And that's enjoy themselves responsibly, or go shopping and whatnot. Make amends with the friends you've lost, ask them to come out with you and you can have a chat and let them know what's going through your mind. The one's that listen, respect and understand are your true friends.

I find it hard to trust people due to trusting issues. When one betrays you, you think all of them are. And I've lost many friends due to it. In all honesty, I have 2 good friends in real time, other times I'd rather be alone. Might sound sad, but I prefer it that way; I'm not bothering anyone, and vice versa. Most of the friends I have are on here, and I treasure them as much as the 2 friends in real time.
Don't dwell on the past .. look to the future, and take whatever the shit, life dishes at you, head on and keep strong.

Smile.

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((Was I just nice for once??))