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[gondobi]

hi i,m a 60 year old man who is confused as to my sexuality, ive never had a sexual relationship with another man but think of it often. i am married and love my wife very much , we have been married for 41 years but our *** life has ground to a halt and i think of *** with men . am i just bored or am i gay

[***ME***]

Originally Posted by gondobi

hi i,m a 60 year old man who is confused as to my sexuality, ive never had a sexual relationship with another man but think of it often. i am married and love my wife very much , we have been married for 41 years but our *** life has ground to a halt and i think of *** with men . am i just bored or am i gay

Yer just

[The Voice]

Originally Posted by gondobi

hi i,m a 60 year old man who is confused as to my sexuality, ive never had a sexual relationship with another man but think of it often. i am married and love my wife very much , we have been married for 41 years but our *** life has ground to a halt and i think of *** with men . am i just bored or am i gay

Since your post indicates that you think there's a connection, one thing you have to ask yourself is whether these thoughts about men are the cause or the effect of a nonexistent sex life. Lack of intimacy may be causing your imagination to run wild. Then again if you lack interest in your wife it may be due to latent homosexuality. If you've had these urges all your life then it's possible you're gay or bisexual, but if these thoughts are recent then I'd say you're just looking for some excitement.

Also, this problem with your sex life may be symptomatic of larger marital problems. Is your wife okay with the lack of intimacy in your marriage? Is she entering or already experiencing menopause? How has overall communication between the two of you been lately?

There could be relationship issues that the two of you need to identify to ensure another 40 years of healthy marriage, not to mention that they could help you better understand yourself.

Best wishes for another four decades of commitment, and congratulations on making it work for this long. I hope this post was helpful.

[AshleyBabes]

i cant answer to this thread, thinking about a 60 year old man being gay is sick, im really sorry.

[midnightstar]

Stop! You need to rethink your thinking! You say you love your wife and have been married for 41 years and now you're thinking about wanting to be with a man? If you love her as much as you say you do you need to focus on something other than that. Have you talked to her about what you're thinking? Next to God you're supposed to put your wife first or did you not know this?

60 isn't old but I think it's too old to change your sexual preferences. AGAIN.........PUT YOUR WIFE FIRST!

[Luka]

Originally Posted by AshleyBabes

i cant answer to this thread,

You just did.

thinking about a 60 year old man being gay is sick, im really sorry.

Then don't think about it if it repulses you.
And why it bothers you I've no idea? I'll be a 60yo gay man in 41 years, hopefully.

If you think being 60 and wanting an active sex life- gay or straight- then you better just convert to celibacy and become a nun, because one day, you'll be that age.

[Miяanda.]

I think that you're having these thoughts
because you're relationship with your wife
is lacking intimacy.
Uh..
Maybe you should talk to your wife about it?
It seems to me you just want some more
excitement, since you supposedly haven't
had it in a while.

[Satan's Wife]

Originally Posted by midnightstar

60 isn't old but I think it's too old to change your sexual preferences. AGAIN.........PUT YOUR WIFE FIRST!

maybe he has had these feelings for other men for several years , perhaps only now they have become stronger which can and does happen , 60 is not too old to change his sexual preferences , and im sure he is thinking of his wife during all this

[PhillyStorm]

Originally Posted by midnightstar

Stop! You need to rethink your thinking! You say you love your wife and have been married for 41 years and now you're thinking about wanting to be with a man? If you love her as much as you say you do you need to focus on something other than that. Have you talked to her about what you're thinking? Next to God you're supposed to put your wife first or did you not know this?

60 isn't old but I think it's too old to change your sexual preferences. AGAIN.........PUT YOUR WIFE FIRST!

He may not have just decided to change his sexual preference, but only chose to come to terms with it. Have you ever realized that he could have gotten married and had a totally opposite life because he was afraid of his likes and did not want to have to deal with everyone's thoughts and hate towards him? He could have always had an interest towards men, but never persued because it was already too late in his mind.

[so?]

Maybe you just need to get close with your wife. Maybe, like mentioned above, it is the lack of intimacy.