Confused

tret · 01-23-2009, 06:51 PM

So I'm sure the questions been played out time and time again; is so and so gay or straight and whatever, but I'm honestly confused as hell right now in regards to my roommate.

So yeah, we didn't really know eachother that well when we moved in together but surprisingly we got close pretty fast. We'd spend hours into the night talking to eachother and we generally spent most of our time together. Then out of the blue he stopped talking to me and told me how we weren't friends and all this stuff. Two months later he randomly started talking to me and then we were back to hanging around with eachother again. So the other night we we were talking again and the conversation started getting a bit weird. I decided to ask him why he had stopped talking to me before and he started giving me some crappy lies and it was pretty obvious. Then he kind of snapped a bit and said how he was gay and that he used to date some guy we knew in highschool and I called him out on it...cause as far as I can see he seems really straight. But then he started getting pissed that I didn't believe and he told me how he just started to really realize he was gay but I kept saying he was lying and then he asked me if he should kiss me to proove it. I kept denying him anyways and then he stopped. Then he said he was just joking and he calmed down and told me how he liked some girl and he was frustrated with that so he stopped talking to me. Now when I think back to the whole thing I realize he seemed to have been genuine about being gay but then at the same time I think he's straight...but theres always this weirdness between us and we're always together and I just dunno anymore.

Oh and just so you know...I've told him I was gay before but he also refused to believe me...the whole situation is just confusing and I doubt I even explained it that well...theres a lot more than what I could get out...

Diante · 01-23-2009, 06:53 PM

K, I'm not going to even worry about reading this.. It needs to be moved to the Advice thread.

The Voice · 01-23-2009, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by tret

So I'm sure the questions been played out time and time again; is so and so gay or straight and whatever, but I'm honestly confused as hell right now in regards to my roommate.

So yeah, we didn't really know eachother that well when we moved in together but surprisingly we got close pretty fast. We'd spend hours into the night talking to eachother and we generally spent most of our time together. Then out of the blue he stopped talking to me and told me how we weren't friends and all this stuff. Two months later he randomly started talking to me and then we were back to hanging around with eachother again. So the other night we we were talking again and the conversation started getting a bit weird. I decided to ask him why he had stopped talking to me before and he started giving me some crappy lies and it was pretty obvious. Then he kind of snapped a bit and said how he was gay and that he used to date some guy we knew in highschool and I called him out on it...cause as far as I can see he seems really straight. But then he started getting pissed that I didn't believe and he told me how he just started to really realize he was gay but I kept saying he was lying and then he asked me if he should kiss me to proove it. I kept denying him anyways and then he stopped. Then he said he was just joking and he calmed down and told me how he liked some girl and he was frustrated with that so he stopped talking to me. Now when I think back to the whole thing I realize he seemed to have been genuine about being gay but then at the same time I think he's straight...but theres always this weirdness between us and we're always together and I just dunno anymore.

Oh and just so you know...I've told him I was gay before but he also refused to believe me...the whole situation is just confusing and I doubt I even explained it that well...theres a lot more than what I could get out...

What does it matter if he's gay or not?

tret · 01-23-2009, 07:36 PM

...cause I kinda like him but I'm not sure how to approach the situation...

Perplexity · 01-23-2009, 07:45 PM

There's only one way to find out - kiss him and check out his reaction.

The Voice · 01-23-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by tret

...cause I kinda like him but I'm not sure how to approach the situation...

I see. Well both of you have already came out to one another, but neither of you believed the other (still having trouble figuring that one out). Even if he is gay that doesn't necessarily mean that he likes you, but since he offered to kiss you to prove it I suspect that he might be attracted.

You two made things a lot harder on each other by not believing the other; that's probably why there's this awkwardness now. Him saying he was just joking was probably a convenient way of denying his sexuality because your reaction wasn't what he had hoped. Of course he might be confused about his orientation.

Maybe the best thing you could do is have a couple beers with him, tell him you really like him, and see where it goes from there.

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Originally Posted by Perplexity

There's only one way to find out - kiss him and check out his reaction.

Or do that.

MarcosEyeDesign · 01-23-2009, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by The Voice

....Maybe the best thing you could do is have a couple beers with him, tell him you really like him, and see where it goes from there.

I'd like to add to that. Get him really drunk, but don't get drunk yourself. Alcohol makes the truth come out. Just don't take advantage....and be sure to act fast if you see him starting to pass out. Oh, try to find an intermediate between him being really drunk and just plain blackout drunk, depending if you want him to remember you asking him all sorts of questions.

**PhillyStorm** · 01-23-2009, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Perplexity

There's only one way to find out - kiss him and check out his reaction.

That is one way.

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Originally Posted by MarcosEyeDesign

I'd like to add to that. Get him really drunk, but don't get drunk yourself. Alcohol makes the truth come out. Just don't take advantage....and be sure to act fast if you see him starting to pass out. Oh, try to find an intermediate between him being really drunk and just plain blackout drunk, depending if you want him to remember you asking him all sorts of questions.

TITAN · 01-24-2009, 12:08 AM

I think that a lot has to do with how you set the mood. If you set a joking mood he inst going to believe you, but if you set a serious mood and just talk to him and tell him how you feel about him and that you are gay that might have better results than getting him drunk or kissing him which may result in him beating you up

if he is not gay. Read what "The Voice" has said it makes a lot of sense to me as you both may had already come out to each other but the mood wasnt set to a serious one and either one of you believed the other.

MarcosEyeDesign · 01-24-2009, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by PhillyStorm™

What? People talk more when under the influence.