Love or Lust?

CameronT · 03-14-2009, 10:42 PM

So Ive come to find that lust and love are different. Or are they? Can you have love without lust? What about lust without love? If your in love does that mean that your overcome with lust for the other person? What if your just in lust, can it turn into love? Being a hopeless romantic I guess I may spend too much time thinking about this. LOL maybe Im just crazy thats a possibility after all

ikky · 03-15-2009, 03:42 AM

I think you need to relax.

Love is lust but then also its more, its something different for everyone.

I think lust can lead to love and i think the two are in close relation to eachother.

Reluctant · 03-15-2009, 08:22 AM

Well they're certainly very different, but not mutually exclusive and can go hand-in-hand. Yes you can have love without lust, such as love for your family and friends. Love isn't just so much lust that it isn't lust any more. Yes, something that starts as lust can turn into love over time, and not necessarily that much time either. I hope that answered most of your questions.

*KAVITA* · 03-15-2009, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by CameronT

So Ive come to find that lust and love are different. Or are they? Can you have love without lust? What about lust without love? If your in love does that mean that your overcome with lust for the other person? What if your just in lust, can it turn into love? Being a hopeless romantic I guess I may spend too much time thinking about this. LOL maybe Im just crazy thats a possibility after all

Okay the first difference:

Love and lust are spelt differently and they have different meanings...

Second Point to be noted:

Lusting over someone while you are in a realtionship with another person is considered adultery (in God's book;bible a sin )

Third Point:

Love in the compassion ,the committment of two people where as lust is the total oppposite

Anesidora · 03-15-2009, 06:07 PM

you can have love and not lust..lots of ppl experience that eventually when the chemistry dies down. Love without lust is like cake without the icing. You can also be just in lust with someone without the love. The ideal thing tho obviously, wud be to have both in love and lust with the same person and to be able maintain that.

Slim451 · 03-18-2009, 01:33 AM

Love and lust are indeed very different.

Lust is nothing more than the mere physical attraction to the person. It's that initial draw to the person. You see your point of interest you're drawn to that person, you're not sure why but you just know that you're attracted to that person. Lust pushes that attraction just a step further. Not to the point of obsession but more to something where you're thinking about that person. You may even think of what you and that person could potentially be. Lust could... could lead to love.

Because Love goes beyond the physical, goes beyond the emotional, goes beyond all of that. Love is an embodiment of all into one. Love has such a deep and rich definition that it would take ages to fully spell out but to put it in a simpler term

Love is knowing that you would give anything for that person, even if it means your own life.

Lust can exist without love because you can have that physical attraction for them but once you get to know them, know their personality you may no longer want that person or find yourself attracted to that person.

Love kind of goes hand in hand with lust only with the physical attraction part for the person that the love is directed towards.

I think that's more of a quick synopsis of it all.

Luka · 03-23-2009, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Selene

I think that when we first see that special someone, there is the lust - the desire to find out more, usually this is sexual. This may or may not develop into love - depending on whether or not the reality matches the fantasy.

Lust may simmer down but love, if it really is love, will grow.

100% Agreed.

I believe you can have lust with love. With me, I love my boyfriend wholeheartedly, but I still lust for him. I'm not overcome with it, but for me, it's when he's away working, I lust for the days he's off work so we can be together. I lust for the moment he wants me there permanently. (That's moving in together, incase any smartass replies 'he doesn't want you then'.) And in return of that, I make him lust for the day I finally agree to it. It's a vicious circle, haha.
The sexual lust is always going to be there if it's a true "meant-to-be" relationship. You'll know when there's no lust between a couple when sex becomes a chore and is boring. Ignite the fires of passion and the spark of lust will blazen up.

Eh, soppy git me.

smooveey45 · 03-26-2009, 11:49 PM

Lust vs Love

Lust is of the flesh, while Love is of the heart. I definitely agree with the posts above. It is not a bad thing at all if a relationship starts with lust just as long as it eventually ends up in love. I've seen many couples like that and they're happy now.

Roger rogz · 03-27-2009, 08:41 AM

Totally completely amazed! How much ground your small forum has covered on this very intricate subject!! Where there have been whole libraries written on this subject! But I did notice that you did not mention the point of materialistic love or lust? Which whether it be for the love/lust of woman or man has all the potential into turning into flat out obsession unless properly checked!! And what history teaches us is that wars! Family and marital breakups were caused by this very simplistic yet complex! Emotion! Once more! I congratulate your forum on makeing your point crystal clear! 1.