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06-11-2009, 05:54 AM
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Speechless
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Kent
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Help Married but know I want a women ?
Hi Im new to these sites so sorry If I do it wrong.
I have been married for 7 years to a man and we have two young children Im 36 and know I am in a relationship that I dont want to be in as I want to be with a women but feel am I stuck because of the children and the hurt to take them away from there dad and also who hot girl would take on me with my baggage.
Any advise would be so welcome as I dont have any gay friends to chat with and feel im going crazy.
cj.
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06-11-2009, 07:22 AM
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Junior Chatterbox
Join Date: Sep 2008
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im not gay and i dont think u being gay has anything to do with it...if u love someone else and dont love ur husband anymore then there is only one thing to do. a divorce handled the right way and for the right reasons wont neccesarily have any negative effect on anyone..sure it will be hard for the kids but it dont sound like u wanna take them away from their dad completely so they will learn to live with the change as so many other kids do. ur happiness is also important and staying in a relationship for the kids' sake can harm them also.
i could be mean and give u advice on ur spelling and grammar but i wont 
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06-11-2009, 10:28 AM
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Gay Chat Mod
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: cloud of sugar puffs
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aye xx
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Originally Posted by CJ.
Hi Im new to these sites so sorry If I do it wrong.
I have been married for 7 years to a man and we have two young children Im 36 and know I am in a relationship that I dont want to be in as I want to be with a women but feel am I stuck because of the children and the hurt to take them away from there dad and also who hot girl would take on me with my baggage.
Any advise would be so welcome as I dont have any gay friends to chat with and feel im going crazy.
cj.
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Do what you thinks best in love and a relationship, but if you want out dont hurt the kids through it decide with ya husband wats best if you break up, to many woman just run off take the kids with them and dont care about the father and thats bad.Dont think its the thing to do because in my opinion if ya gonna break up make sure both of you see the kidds loads and at any resonable times they want not what you want.
In my opinion the kids are more important but that dont stop you wanting out of this relationship, you should be happy to
tobes xxxxxx
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Last edited by toby; 06-11-2009 at 01:57 PM.
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06-11-2009, 01:06 PM
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John O' Scots.
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: City Of Wonder.
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Originally Posted by 12valve
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I'm not gay and I don't think you being gay has anything to do with it.
If you love someone else, and don't love your husband anymore, then there is only one thing to do; a divorce handled the right way, and for the right reasons, won't necessarily have any effect on anyone.
Sure it will be hard for the kids, but it doesn't sound like you want to take them away from their dad completely- so they will learn to live with the change like so many others do.
Your happiness is important and staying in a relationship for the kids' sake can harm them also.
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Don't criticise her spelling/grammar when you can't use proper English yourself, fu ckwit.
Oh, and my interpretation of your post is perfect English .. you should use it, too, instead of bashing others.
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06-11-2009, 01:57 PM
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Junior Chatterbox
Join Date: Sep 2008
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lmao thanx i needed that...realy did make me lol though
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06-11-2009, 06:27 PM
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I talk too much!
Join Date: Sep 2008
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Unless your husband abuses you I think you should stay married to him and raise your children together.
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Last edited by midnightstar; 06-11-2009 at 06:31 PM.
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06-12-2009, 03:56 AM
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Intermediate Newbie
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: greece
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Originally Posted by midnightstar
Unless your husband abuses you I think you should stay married to him and raise your children together.
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abuse is not the only reason to leave someone, staying married for the kids sake is just about the worse thing someone could do, no love, no feelings, constant contradiction is just as hurtful to the kids as abuse. if you don't feel good about yourself or with your partner you should find a solution, be it counseling, be it divorce, be it being with someone else in the process. if you don't feel good you can't be good with others, unsatisfied people are unsatisfying with others. I told my husband I didn't love him anymore the way I should and I wanted out, couldn't fool myself and him anymore. regardless of the fact that he didn't take it very well, I'm on my own for 5 years now and I've found myself again. life's much better and my kids are ok.
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06-12-2009, 04:39 AM
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I talk too much!
Join Date: Sep 2008
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Originally Posted by anette
abuse is not the only reason to leave someone, staying married for the kids sake is just about the worse thing someone could do, no love, no feelings, constant contradiction is just as hurtful to the kids as abuse. if you don't feel good about yourself or with your partner you should find a solution, be it counseling, be it divorce, be it being with someone else in the process. if you don't feel good you can't be good with others, unsatisfied people are unsatisfying with others. I told my husband I didn't love him anymore the way I should and I wanted out, couldn't fool myself and him anymore. regardless of the fact that he didn't take it very well, I'm on my own for 5 years now and I've found myself again. life's much better and my kids are ok.
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No matter what my opinion is because she's still more than likely leave her husband. I was just basing this on my religious beliefs.
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R.I.P. Dad R.I.P. Mom R.I.P. Chummie
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06-12-2009, 04:43 AM
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Intermediate Newbie
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: greece
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Originally Posted by midnightstar
No matter what my opinion is because she's still more than likely leave her husband. I was just basing this on my religious beliefs.
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I wasn't judging your opinion or beliefs, don't get me wrong, I just expressed an opinion myself based on personal experience. what she's gonna do in the end she'll have to decide for herself, I'm afraid nobody can lift that weight off her shoulders.
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06-12-2009, 04:59 AM
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I talk too much!
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: born slippy
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Originally Posted by Luka
I'm not gay
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firstly wtf ?? 
secondly, maybe just try "going" with a woman, see if its actually
what you think it really is, its real easy to jump a relationship,
far harder to fix it if it was the wrong thing to
do. we all go through periods where we're sure our partner
isnt for us, anyone who says different is lying, or moronic !!
so maybe try before you buy, either way all the best, whichever whatever happens hope
it works out for you..
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