Control Freak

bpilcher2 · 06-19-2006, 12:29 AM

I'm with a guy that I have been with for two years. It was great but now I think he is taking advantage of everything I do for him. I'm not allowed to go anywhere without him or without being timed but he's allowed to go play guitar at his buddy's house until midnight. There is no compromise in anything it's all his way or no way. If I try to say anything he tells me to shut my mouth. NOT PUTTING UP WITH THIS ANYMORE!!!! How to I explain how I feel without sounding like a nag?

SatansLittleHelper · 06-19-2006, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by bpilcher2

I'm with a guy that I have been with for two years. It was great but now I think he is taking advantage of everything I do for him. I'm not allowed to go anywhere without him or without being timed but he's allowed to go play guitar at his buddy's house until midnight. There is no compromise in anything it's all his way or no way. If I try to say anything he tells me to shut my mouth. NOT PUTTING UP WITH THIS ANYMORE!!!! How to I explain how I feel without sounding like a nag?

I think you two need to sit down and have a serious chat. Tell him how you feel about your restrictions...and ask him how its fair that he can do anything anytime....and you can't. Tell him you are both adults, and you dont need to be treated like a child. A relationship has to have some limits.....but when its only one person with the limits.....it becomes an issue.

Old Man in Trench Coat · 06-19-2006, 01:55 AM

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Originally Posted by SatansLittleHelper

I think you two need to sit down and have a serious chat. Tell him how you feel about your restrictions...and ask him how its fair that he can do anything anytime....and you can't. Tell him you are both adults, and you dont need to be treated like a child. A relationship has to have some limits.....but when its only one person with the limits.....it becomes an issue.

Naw she needs to pack all of her stuff and get out. This person is taking advantage of you. He is isolating you. You should have your butt kicked for allowing this. A relationship is to suppose to be all free where each person supports one another and helps one another grow. If you dont leave him then STFU and take your medicine.

little sara · 06-19-2006, 03:10 AM

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Naw she needs to pack all of her stuff and get out. This person is taking advantage of you. He is isolating you. You should have your butt kicked for allowing this. A relationship is to suppose to be all free where each person supports one another and helps one another grow. If you dont leave him then STFU and take your medicine.

Definitely agreed.

Candescence. · 06-19-2006, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Old Man in Trench Coat

Naw she needs to pack all of her stuff and get out. This person is taking advantage of you. He is isolating you. You should have your butt kicked for allowing this. A relationship is to suppose to be all free where each person supports one another and helps one another grow. If you dont leave him then STFU and take your medicine.

I agree..

I couldn't live with a guy like that. I suggest having a serious talk with him, it seems like he thinks he has you wrapped around his little finger - make sure you set him straight.. And then if things still don't improve, I'd leave him.

**Cat** · 06-19-2006, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by bpilcher2

I'm with a guy that I have been with for two years. It was great but now I think he is taking advantage of everything I do for him. I'm not allowed to go anywhere without him or without being timed but he's allowed to go play guitar at his buddy's house until midnight. There is no compromise in anything it's all his way or no way. If I try to say anything he tells me to shut my mouth. NOT PUTTING UP WITH THIS ANYMORE!!!! How to I explain how I feel without sounding like a nag?

You get treated how you allow yourself to be treated.

Either walk out, or throw him out. Otherwise be prepared to live a life of misery with some thug who'll end up knocking ten kinds of shiate out of you.

Nebacudnezar · 06-19-2006, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by bpilcher2

I'm with a guy that I have been with for two years. It was great but now I think he is taking advantage of everything I do for him. I'm not allowed to go anywhere without him or without being timed but he's allowed to go play guitar at his buddy's house until midnight. There is no compromise in anything it's all his way or no way. If I try to say anything he tells me to shut my mouth. NOT PUTTING UP WITH THIS ANYMORE!!!! How to I explain how I feel without sounding like a nag?

All i have to say hunny is actions speek loawder than words just pack your bags and leave him a note he sounds like a right little ray of sunshine

dont try to exsplain just leave him hell beg you to come back but by the way he sounds you shouldnt get some one nice and genuiene.

Yamishama · 06-19-2006, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Old Man in Trench Coat

Naw she needs to pack all of her stuff and get out. This person is taking advantage of you. He is isolating you. You should have your butt kicked for allowing this. A relationship is to suppose to be all free where each person supports one another and helps one another grow. If you dont leave him then STFU and take your medicine.

I agree with Old Man.

Fearless™ · 06-24-2006, 10:59 AM

break up with him. cause if he acts like this now, imagine what he'll be like when you 2 get married.

themauler · 06-24-2006, 01:22 PM

take the old mans advice get out thats no way to live your life too many other good guys out there that will treat you like the princess your are

dont cut yourself short.....go