I really need some advice

Sexy_gurl_08 · 06-24-2006, 02:47 AM

ok well i love my boyfriend,but see me and him both promised each other to save our *** untill marriage and he also promised my mom..but see for some reason i want to know what its like..so ill want to have *** but then on he other hand i don't i love him to much to ruin our relationship what do i do?

Help!!!

SatansLittleHelper · 06-24-2006, 02:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Sexy_gurl_08

ok well i love my boyfriend,but see me and him both promised each other to save our *** untill marriage and he also promised my mom..but see for some reason i want to know what its like..so ill want to have *** but then on he other hand i don't i love him to much to ruin our relationship what do i do?

Help!!!

I say save the s.ex for your wedding night.......but if ya wanna have s.ex...condoms are pretty much reliable...but in some cases.....they do break/rip/tear/etc.....and then you'll be a teen mother....called names by your peers...and your life will be drastically changed......i think its best to keep your legs closed...

Candescence. · 06-24-2006, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Sexy_gurl_08

ok well i love my boyfriend,but see me and him both promised each other to save our *** untill marriage and he also promised my mom..but see for some reason i want to know what its like..so ill want to have *** but then on he other hand i don't i love him to much to ruin our relationship what do i do?

Help!!!

If you don't "love him that much", then why the heck are you even getting married??

But anwyay, I think you should keep your virginity until you're ready to lose it.. If you lose it, fall pregnant, bf runs away, you're all on your own, have no money for the child.. I hope you realize babies don't come cheap. And what if something happens between you both and you decide it's best to break up and not get married?? You'd have brought a baby into the world, in an unstable relationship, and I'm sure you know that all babies need stability if possible..

But if you're that desperate, I'd use protection, ie: condom, pill, etc..

But if I was in your position, I'd wait till I was married, at least that way you could make sure it was official, you'd be in a stable relationship which is essential. I think it's stupid to just have sex to see what it's like; anything could happen, and I really wouldn't take the chance..

So take my advice, and wait till your wedding night, it'll mean so much more to both of you..

Jeremy- · 06-24-2006, 09:59 AM

keep the muffin shop closed.

and i dont mean an actual muffin shop

Old Man in Trench Coat · 06-25-2006, 02:41 PM

Break up with him, then break up with yourself.

Raziel Delacroix · 06-26-2006, 01:34 PM

Save it. Some things are better waited on. No sense in rushing something that WILL happen. Enjoy what you are doing now, instead of doing it now and ruining it for later.

Nunnie · 06-26-2006, 06:47 PM

I say you talk to him about it.
But *** isn't all it's cracked up to be, and it can ruin relationships. =/

-Roz- · 06-26-2006, 06:53 PM

Talk to him about it...He might feel the same.

06-26-2006, 11:14 PM

The first time always sucks anyway. You might as well fuck a few times so you know what you're doing by the time you get married.

Disturbed Fem · 06-28-2006, 06:38 PM

Talk to him about this. Explain your desires and feelings and work through it together. By any means you really shouldn't cheat on him or anything just to see what s3x will feel like. If you 'really' love him you'll wait. Maybe talk to him about 'other' options like outercourse or oral s3x. I know it's not the same as s3xual intercourse or the definition of it, but there are other things you can do until you're ready or in your case until you're married.