The Love Triangle help?

[hawthorn40]

Hi,
This is my first post here, one of hopefully many.

I am nearly 20 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 1 year. I am in love with her, no doubt about that. But i met this girl 6 months ago and we see each other alot. I didnt tell her i had a g.f and we have become really close. She found out that i did have a girlfriend and was really upset at me. She couldnt beleive i could do this to my g.f (even though we didnt do anything) and demanded that i let my g.f know the truth. I did just that hoping that honesty would pay off and it blew up in my face. My g.f demanded she see this woman and confront her.

When the two go together my g.f asked 1 simple question, do you have strong feelings for him, which she replied 'yes, but i didn't know he was taken' my g.f then demanded that she lose all contact with me. (and then dumps me, whats the point of that?)

She then dumps me (even though for 6 months i have seen this girl i was faithful) and tells me she thinks im in love with the other woman (when she only just found out?).

now this is where i need help! In the 6 months i have gathered strong feelings for this other woman, but i do not cheat so i stayed faithful. But now im stuck in a hard place, do I A. Beg for my g.f to take me back and keep trying. or B) Start a new relationship in the hope for a happiness.

Also C) why did she dump me? and D) whats your opinion on this.

Thanks

[Old Man in Trench Coat]

[QUOTE=hawthorn40]Hi,
This is my first post here, one of hopefully many.

I am nearly 20 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 1 year. I am in love with her, no doubt about that. But i met this girl 6 months ago and we see each other alot. I didnt tell her i had a g.f and we have become really close. She found out that i did have a girlfriend and was really upset at me. She couldnt beleive i could do this to my g.f (even though we didnt do anything) and demanded that i let my g.f know the truth. I did just that hoping that honesty would pay off and it blew up in my face. My g.f demanded she see this woman and confront her.

When the two go together my g.f asked 1 simple question, do you have strong feelings for him, which she replied 'yes, but i didn't know he was taken' my g.f then demanded that she lose all contact with me. (and then dumps me, whats the point of that?)

She then dumps me (even though for 6 months i have seen this girl i was faithful) and tells me she thinks im in love with the other woman (when she only just found out?).

now this is where i need help! In the 6 months i have gathered strong feelings for this other woman, but i do not cheat so i stayed faithful. But now im stuck in a hard place, do I A. Beg for my g.f to take me back and keep trying. or B) Start a new relationship in the hope for a happiness.

Also C) why did she dump me? and D) whats your opinion on this.

She dumped you cause your a moron. Seriously don't come to a public chat room and discuss your personal life.

[bindi]

ur a pric...dats y she dumpd u!!

[Mandy101]

HAWTHORN40:Hi Amanda here to help.
A.you shouldn't beg for her back, she made that choice based on the circumstances she was faced with, if she wants you back she will beg dont be the begger, if she loves you she will try with you even though it started with you.
B.Evedintly, if you had strong feeling for this other girl you couldn't be in love as much as you say you are with your g.f,love her (yes) in love(conditional love)-no. uncoditional love you would have never thought or let yourself have feeling for the other girl. Follow your heart,it may take time but choose on happiness. I you are happy and content with your g.f stay with her, but lose the other girl b/c this will only add stress to your relationship. If you feel your feelings are stronger for this girl,well like I said follow your heart. Stronger feelings makes for a better relationship, But watch out! If you start this new relationship and things don't work out you could find yourself burnt and left with no one at all, which will make yourself kick your self in the ass because you should have stayed with the first love you had, and chances are after you brake up with her for a new chick, & then want her back( sorry buddy to late for You ) you will find yourself looking like this..........
C. you were dumped b\c..........she found out you had feelings for someone else, she feels like shes your g\f , she wants you all to herself, if you have feelings for someone else, you are disregaurding her feelings. she also probably feels your not giving 100% to your 1 year relationship........ who would stand for that? I give her props for making that decision..... But, you should have let her know from you when those feelings started, she probably would have left you, but she would have left with respect for you instead of pitty,oh yea not to mention hurt feelings!
D. I think I gave you my opinion A-c..............I'ts up to you but just remember, your heart is always right in doubt question yourself.........you know best............. well I hope I helped you out.... I feel like I just wrote a book... Glad to be of service to yo........ that will be $250.00,haha, I am expensive! just kidding, anyways, lets shed some light on the subject at least your worried about your feelings, and others... would love to chat with you sometime. try to talk back with me sometime.............

[themauler]

sounds like a bad soap opera too me( was that mean of me 2 say)

live life dont make a play of it...we have lifetime for that

[Ģraphïŧe]

Originally Posted by hawthorn40

Hi,
This is my first post here, one of hopefully many.

I am nearly 20 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 1 year. I am in love with her, no doubt about that. But i met this girl 6 months ago and we see each other alot. I didnt tell her i had a g.f and we have become really close. She found out that i did have a girlfriend and was really upset at me. She couldnt beleive i could do this to my g.f (even though we didnt do anything) and demanded that i let my g.f know the truth. I did just that hoping that honesty would pay off and it blew up in my face. My g.f demanded she see this woman and confront her.

When the two go together my g.f asked 1 simple question, do you have strong feelings for him, which she replied 'yes, but i didn't know he was taken' my g.f then demanded that she lose all contact with me. (and then dumps me, whats the point of that?)

She then dumps me (even though for 6 months i have seen this girl i was faithful) and tells me she thinks im in love with the other woman (when she only just found out?).

now this is where i need help! In the 6 months i have gathered strong feelings for this other woman, but i do not cheat so i stayed faithful. But now im stuck in a hard place, do I A. Beg for my g.f to take me back and keep trying. or B) Start a new relationship in the hope for a happiness.

Also C) why did she dump me? and D) whats your opinion on this.

Thanks

A) don't beg for her back if she wants you she'll come to u just tell her u think about her and are still inlove with her and how u feel but u gotta give her space cos by the sounds of it u really screwed up hard core.

B) Think carefully before starting a new relationship since this has happened it may hurt her more if u go straight into another relationship with this girl or another so soon if she has feelings. Just becareful before u start a new one and especially if u have feelings for her still another relationship won't get rid of that feeling.

C) she dumped you because she is your gf and girls when there in relationships want all the attention and all the emotion they tend not like to share there bf's affection with any other girl... i'm suprised she didn't try to castrate you

D) I think it was wrong of her to dump u but rather put u on a break period. But if you know who u want and who u don't then i don't think there is much of a problem but by the looks of it she doesn't know who you want you should make it clear that it's her and maybe it will work out. She did what she did because she's upset pissed off that u gave another girl maybe not the physical aspects but the emotion aspects of her relationship which are meant for her. U really need to choose who you want you can't split your feelings up. you can't have strong feelings for two people it's one or another. goodluck