Can someone help me out with this?

Cowgurlly · 07-05-2006, 03:42 PM

hey, ok heres the situation. I met this guy and we have been talking for a while now...well since Nov. lol. I think Im starting to get feelign for him...only thing is that I dont know if he feels the same way. How can I tell if hes only interested in a friendship or interested in a relationship? and how can I make a first move without ruining what we already have?

07-05-2006, 03:45 PM

Maybe you should talk to him about it?

Zero Xaerus · 07-05-2006, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Cowgurlly

hey, ok heres the situation. I met this guy and we have been talking for a while now...well since Nov. lol. I think Im starting to get feelign for him...only thing is that I dont know if he feels the same way. How can I tell if hes only interested in a friendship or interested in a relationship? and how can I make a first move without ruining what we already have?

When you mean by Talking is it Chatting or RL Talking?
o_o; I mean Internet Relationships never end in a good note.
Don't do it . . unless you're that desperate.

Sephiroth 666 · 07-05-2006, 07:48 PM

tsh talk about freakin miserey well make him give in dont express yourself that makes u weak to the human mind

Luka · 07-05-2006, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Sephiroth 666

tsh talk about freakin miserey well make him give in dont express yourself that makes u weak to the human mind

Shut up, will you? You give nothing but crap advice.

Anyways, try talking to him over a meal or something, and get your feelings out in the open. Tell him how you feel but don't go over the top. Ask him how he feels and if he doesn't feel the same way as you do, then remain friends.
But tis a silly question also; OBVIOUSLY he must have feelings for you if he has been dating you since November. Tis now July.
Doesn't the fact that 8 months of dating, tell you something!?

Cowgurlly · 07-05-2006, 09:47 PM

yeah I see what youre saying but there is still the thought of what will change. What I mean is that ok if I say how i feel, and it turns out that he doesnt feel the same way, I think it would make the whole situation akward.

Luka · 07-05-2006, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Cowgurlly

yeah I see what youre saying but there is still the thought of what will change. What I mean is that ok if I say how i feel, and it turns out that he doesnt feel the same way, I think it would make the whole situation akward.

Basically, the only way you can tell if things will change or not is if you pluck up the courage and tell him how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same way, then you can remain friends, just because he doesn't feel the same, shouldn't jeopardise your friendship..
The situation would only feel awkward because YOU would feel awkward..
But if I were you, I'd go and tell him over a qiet drink or a meal, just the two of you, and talk about it then.
But one thing, don't tell him when you're drunk, say it sober. Turn-off.

07-05-2006, 09:56 PM

I think you should tell him how you feel. If not he'll never know how you feel towards him and you won't ever know if he likes you for sure. Sometimes you have to take a chance. Sure, it might be awkward if he doesn't feel the same, but give him time and maybe things will be back to normal. Don't like force him into liking you, if he doesn't. Just be his friend no matter what. Does he give you any signs that he likes you? Like flirting or anything?

Cowgurlly · 07-05-2006, 10:14 PM

well we joke around about the idea, nothing really flirty though. hes not really the type of guy who makes the first move.

Luka · 07-05-2006, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Cowgurlly

well we joke around about the idea, nothing really flirty though. hes not really the type of guy who makes the first move.

Then you do it.

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Originally Posted by [B

Cowgurlly[/B]]
yeah I see what youre saying but there is still the thought of what will change. What I mean is that ok if I say how i feel, and it turns out that he doesnt feel the same way, I think it would make the whole situation akward.

Basically, the only way you can tell if things will change or not is if you pluck up the courage and tell him how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same way, then you can remain friends, just because he doesn't feel the same, shouldn't jeopardise your friendship..
The situation would only feel awkward because YOU would feel awkward..
But if I were you, I'd go and tell him over a qiet drink or a meal, just the two of you, and talk about it then.
But one thing, don't tell him when you're drunk, say it sober. Turn-off.