What Do I Have To Do To Get Some Attention!!!!!

griffin_0827 · 07-23-2006, 09:35 PM

I have been with this man for 2 years and am getting a little tired of him in the bedroom, i have suggested new things and asked for him to try them out or to let me try them but to no avail! what do i have to do to get some attention. i would hate to have to end our relationship because of this. he is a sweet caring gentle man but I need some lovin'. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!:brokenhea

ali · 07-24-2006, 12:26 AM

easy ur thinkin of urself ...ur not the total control there are two in thisrelationship did u even think he isn't confortable with ur not satisfyin ...no i'm sure u didn't how about if ur not happy end it and move on simple as that its not always the man hun trust me

grow up time

Daniella ♥ · 07-24-2006, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by griffin_0827

I have been with this man for 2 years and am getting a little tired of him in the bedroom, i have suggested new things and asked for him to try them out or to let me try them but to no avail! what do i have to do to get some attention. i would hate to have to end our relationship because of this. he is a sweet caring gentle man but I need some lovin'. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!:brokenhea

=|..Not to be mean..

Gin Soaked Boy · 07-24-2006, 05:18 AM

You could always invest in a new best friend (complete with batteries!!)

I suppose a lot depends on the balance you place between emotional and physical love. it's different for everyone and there's no right or wrong way. If the scales aren't working out for you favourably, and if talking about it with him doesn't change anything, you could be wasting your time here.

I certainly don't condone ending a happy relationship as your 'needs' are not being fullfilled, but if thats not making you happy, there's a chance you may start looking for something elsewhere, which would be worse, so it may be best to call it a day, or take a break.

LoveStruckMadd · 07-24-2006, 05:30 AM

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Originally Posted by griffin_0827

I have been with this man for 2 years and am getting a little tired of him in the bedroom, i have suggested new things and asked for him to try them out or to let me try them but to no avail! what do i have to do to get some attention. i would hate to have to end our relationship because of this. he is a sweet caring gentle man but I need some lovin'. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!:brokenhea

Well.. maybe he just doesn't know what you want.
Perhaps he's tried to make himself better in the bedroom..
& he didn't know how to or where to start.
So why don't you help him out a bit? =/
Then maybe he'll have the urge to try new things as well.
You don't want him to be shy in his moves.. so don't be shy in yours.. then again.. don't be so forceful that you scare him to death.
Then you'll be left with the corpse to take care of. A ha ha ha.
But anywho, all jokes aside..
Just make him see that it's a good thing and not a bad thing. =]
Otherwise.. you're kind of stuck.

david9 · 07-24-2006, 05:49 AM

good answer, LSM! In addition, may i add, that you need to be careful of your expectations of him. some guys are just not adventurous - old fashioned, so to speak. if *** is what makes the relationship, and the *** is gone, then so will be the relationship. there is more to life than ***. Well, gotta run. I will be off work soon. If you read this, griffin0827, let us know what happened. Good luck to you. .

Candescence. · 07-24-2006, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by griffin_0827

I have been with this man for 2 years and am getting a little tired of him in the bedroom, i have suggested new things and asked for him to try them out or to let me try them but to no avail! what do i have to do to get some attention. i would hate to have to end our relationship because of this. he is a sweet caring gentle man but I need some lovin'. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!:brokenhea

Maybe he just isn't ready, or he has alot on his mind... Men can be fecking odd at times. :|
Just give him some time.. =\

*TEARS* · 07-24-2006, 08:46 AM

Hmmm consider these facts...do you love him or areu with him just for s e x ? Im not trying to sound mean, but what you are saying is that if things wount change in the bedroom depratment you will leave him? Why dont you try talking to him, sit him down and tell him that you need to talk to him about something very important. Then tell him whats on ur heart, be polite but be honest, tell him how you feel. Sometimes guys dont get the hints that u throw at them

I wonder why. Also if hes being distant its time u ask ur self why? Keeping doubts in a relationship or not communicating well is the worst thing that can happen. In your best interests, tak to him ASAP and sort this out

foreverkiwi · 07-24-2006, 08:47 AM

2 years in a relationship you should both know each other pretty well by now. You need to get back to basics, remember the first night you shared together? How did that feel? what got you both going? I would try and re-create that together - dont put pressure on him to do what you want it's about giving and receiving. He may not feel comfortable doing the things you have suggested?

Remember that a relationship is based on much more than s e x - get back to the foreplay and the romance of things - once you have those eveything else should follow naturally.

*TEARS* · 07-24-2006, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by foreverkiwi

2 years in a relationship you should both know each other pretty well by now. You need to get back to basics, remember the first night you shared together? How did that feel? what got you both going? I would try and re-create that together - dont put pressure on him to do what you want it's about giving and receiving. He may not feel comfortable doing the things you have suggested?

Remember that a relationship is based on much more than s e x - get back to the foreplay and the romance of things - once you have those eveything else should follow naturally.

Hmmm I have none of those u stated in my life yet