HELP!!! Is he cheating?

[Showahnee01]

I have been with this man 14 years (not married, I dont really want to get married, been there), anyway he never really has anything to say, non committal, supposedly out @ bar about every other afternoon, after work, (gets off work around 4:30pm, yet sometimes doesnt get home until 7,8 or maybe later. (supposed to be watching my 14 year old son). Last night he did not get home until almost 10pm. says he is not unfaithful.
He gets mad quickly, and usually accuses me messing around. He works first, I work 2nd.
He says that he cant verify I am @ work etc. He also states that he has crazy dreams that I am messingaround and he gets mad @ me for it. Lately he doesnt always call me @ lunch time like he did maybe a month ago, and he doesnt answer his cell sometimes or is quick to hang up with me.

[Candescence.]

..What's a relationship without trust??

[Mariah]

Maybe he really is @ the bar every other afternoon.
I'd have more concerns about his drinking, than I would about him possibly cheating.

Maybe he's fed up with you accusing him, and now he's wondering if you're not cheating.

And maybe he's not talking to you on the phone as much because he's tired of your accusations.

The only reason I say "maybe", is because if you don't know if he's actually cheating or not, none of us would be able to tell.

Maybe he really is telling the truth...
Or maybe he's lying and cheating.

Take a day off work and head to the bar he claims to hang out at, then you'll know if he's cheating or not.

Myself... If my partner was at the bar every other day... I'd have to leave him... I refuse to come second to a drink.

I'd say he's cheating you alright, maybe not with a female, but definately with his alcohol. >.<

[blondy-uk™]

Originally Posted by Mariah

Maybe he really is @ the bar every other afternoon.
I'd have more concerns about his drinking, than I would about him possibly cheating.

Maybe he's fed up with you accusing him, and now he's wondering if you're not cheating.

And maybe he's not talking to you on the phone as much because he's tired of your accusations.

The only reason I say "maybe", is because if you don't know if he's actually cheating or not, none of us would be able to tell.

Maybe he really is telling the truth...
Or maybe he's lying and cheating.

Take a day off work and head to the bar he claims to hang out at, then you'll know if he's cheating or not.

Myself... If my partner was at the bar every other day... I'd have to leave him... I refuse to come second to a drink.

I'd say he's cheating you alright, maybe not with a female, but definately with his alcohol. >.<

i second tht wel said mariah.

[Nastydawg]

Originally Posted by Mariah

Maybe he really is @ the bar every other afternoon.
I'd have more concerns about his drinking, than I would about him possibly cheating.

Maybe he's fed up with you accusing him, and now he's wondering if you're not cheating.

And maybe he's not talking to you on the phone as much because he's tired of your accusations.

The only reason I say "maybe", is because if you don't know if he's actually cheating or not, none of us would be able to tell.

Maybe he really is telling the truth...
Or maybe he's lying and cheating.

Take a day off work and head to the bar he claims to hang out at, then you'll know if he's cheating or not.

Myself... If my partner was at the bar every other day... I'd have to leave him... I refuse to come second to a drink.

I'd say he's cheating you alright, maybe not with a female, but definately with his alcohol. >.<

[azsiggy@hotmail.com]

In my experience your instinct will never misslead you. My ex-husband use to say the exact same things to me, I spent a couple of years feeling like I was going nuts after I left I found out he had cheated numerous times and also had a serious drug problem. Follow your heart !

[Old Man in Trench Coat]

Cheating is not my game but I would for sure cheat on this one.

[Xtremo420]

well basecally just wath him for a while and see what he does. my gf never does that but we trust each other enough not too

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Originally Posted by d-generation-x {dx}

well basecally just wath him for a while and see what he does. my gf never does that but we trust each other enough not too

yeah thats the best thing to do!!!

[Your Favorite Crush]

Originally Posted by Showahnee01

anyway he never really has anything to say, non committal,

That's with most men. Consider it a blessing.

supposedly out @ bar about every other afternoon, after work, (gets off work around 4:30pm, yet sometimes doesnt get home until 7,8

At least he comes home.

or maybe later. (supposed to be watching my 14 year old son). Last night he did not get home until almost 10pm.

Supposedly watching? Is this his child? And yet 10 p.m. isn't that late. Some guys get to talking or watching a program and forget the time. It's very common and not all of them are cheating.

says he is not unfaithful.

This could very well be the truth. Follow him.

He gets mad quickly, and usually accuses me messing around. He works first, I work 2nd.

Do you accuse him very often of cheating? Do you batter him with questions as to where he's been? If so, maybe that's why he accuses you of cheating. Or he could very well be guilty of it himself. Follow him or get a friend to.

He says that he cant verify I am @ work etc. He also states that he has crazy dreams that I am messingaround and he gets mad @ me for it. Lately he doesnt always call me @ lunch time like he did maybe a month ago, and he doesnt answer his cell sometimes or is quick to hang up with me.

Ask him why he insists on accusing you and making you feel bad. TALK to him. Calmly. Just explain that it's time the two of you got some thing sorted, and talk to him. But don't let your anger rule the conversation and make the undertones obvious. Leave the accusations behind and just talk.