Confused about coworker

agirl · 08-27-2006, 01:05 AM

I need advice...I had a work party and there was drinking involved. There is a co-worker that I have some feelings for..(by the way I am married 16yrs) Both my co-worker and myself danced together and we kissed more than once. I don't remember the whole night. My friends filled me in and they say it was all innocent and just for fun. I don't know what to do now. I may have said things that I don't remember. I just might have confessed to him what my feelilngs are and now I am worried. I have emailed him to apologize for acting stupid. He has already said don't worry we were all a little goofy. I know I have feelings for him because it is not just when we are drinking. I truly get butterflies in my stomach whenever I see him at work. What do I do?

oucho2beat · 08-27-2006, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by agirl

I need advice...I had a work party and there was drinking involved. There is a co-worker that I have some feelings for..(by the way I am married 16yrs) Both my co-worker and myself danced together and we kissed more than once. I don't remember the whole night. My friends filled me in and they say it was all innocent and just for fun. I don't know what to do now. I may have said things that I don't remember. I just might have confessed to him what my feelilngs are and now I am worried. I have emailed him to apologize for acting stupid. He has already said don't worry we were all a little goofy. I know I have feelings for him because it is not just when we are drinking. I truly get butterflies in my stomach whenever I see him at work. What do I do?

Use the moral and ethical up bringing you had to answer this. ''it will anyway

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Cereal-Killa · 08-27-2006, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by agirl

I need advice...I had a work party and there was drinking involved. There is a co-worker that I have some feelings for..(by the way I am married 16yrs) Both my co-worker and myself danced together and we kissed more than once. I don't remember the whole night. My friends filled me in and they say it was all innocent and just for fun. I don't know what to do now. I may have said things that I don't remember. I just might have confessed to him what my feelilngs are and now I am worried. I have emailed him to apologize for acting stupid. He has already said don't worry we were all a little goofy. I know I have feelings for him because it is not just when we are drinking. I truly get butterflies in my stomach whenever I see him at work. What do I do?

You're married .. or does that ring on your finger mean jack sh!t?

Candescence. · 08-27-2006, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Cereal-Killa

You're married .. or does that ring on your finger mean jack sh!t?

I agree..

Whatever feelings for this guy you may have, block them out and don't take it any further.. You'll probally end up breaking up with your hubby who you've been married to for 16 years, for this guy who probally only wants a bit of fun before he ditches you.
From what I can see, you're in a stable relationship - don't mess that up for anyone or anything; you'll only end up regretting it later on in life.

Do you want your feelings for him to develop and grow into something more? Are you not happy with your current partner? Or is this whole thing totally unintentional and you want it to stop?

†―†ΤιΜΜΞΉ†—† · 08-27-2006, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by <3 Ms. Miranda <3

WTF.
You Ma'am..
Need to find a new job.
Or get a divorce.
That's.. Disgusting..
Not in a "Eww. Puke" way..
Just, disgusting..

i agree with you Mandy !!!

agirl · 08-27-2006, 03:35 PM

My husband cheating on me 7 years into our marriage and I have never forgave him for that. This other person has many qualities I like. I really am confused...it's not yuk...nothing more has ever happened..just a kiss and not even a deep kiss. I am not 100% happy in my marriage. Not all marriages work forever. I am not saying I am done but I am confused.

Princess of Thieves · 08-27-2006, 04:25 PM

If you're not totaly happy in your marriage then you need to confront your husband about it and see if you can make it better, just because he cheated on you dosn't make it okay if you do it back, it would make you just as bad as him.

Stop and think about how you felt when you found out he cheated on you.

Personaly I don't think anybody should feel that.

If you love your husband -at all- then you don't want him to feel what you felt. It's easy to betray someone's trust but staying faithful to them is a show of how strong you are. So if you have any self respect then you need to talk the whole thing over with your husband before deciding anything.

Candescence. · 08-27-2006, 10:02 PM

I agree with POT. And if you ask me, you have some serious thinking to do..

Mjane · 08-30-2006, 02:34 PM

i agree. i mean... do you love ur husband? 2 wrongs dont make a right.

agirl · 09-01-2006, 10:23 PM

It's not about 2 wrongs making a right...It is about not having the same relationship with someone after they have lost your trust. It was an affair that lasted for quite some time and I was lied to over and over. The other girl was even lied to just so she would feel sorry for him. Once someone has taken trust away from a relationship..it is very hard to get it back. I would say that I do love him...but don't have the same type of love for him anymore. He knows I have trust issues with him. I still run into the other woman from time to time and it is hard not to remember what happened. For god sake...does anyone out there see my point. Once you have been scorned, you are a different person. This is not a revenge thing. If that was the case..I would have gone out right away and had my revenge.