Mad About A boy. !

[Nebacudnezar]

Hi

I have been chatting to this lad for 2 day,s ye on msn and on the phone and i think i am falling in love with him for real like,

When we chat on msn we call each other silly names and stuff and have a laff but when we talk on the phone we get all seriouse about each other i really really like this lad,

He lives about two hundred miles away from me but that,s not a bad thing because i wouldnt want him to live where i live,

But what ime asking is when we talk on the phone he tell,s me he loves me to bit,s and he want,s me to come out the closetand come to where he lives, i say the same thing,s to him to but i keep saying to him that its to soon for me to come out and go to him i mean we have only known each other 2 day,s

But i really do want to come out once and for all and go to him so i said to him , let,s wait a while and if we still feel the same way ill do it ill come out i said three month,s or so like but,...........

What i wanna know is how can i feel like this if ive only known him 2 day,s ffs

And what do you lot think i should do give me some advice will yoo,s

Thanx.!

[Candescence.]

LOL. Let me get this straight; You've known each other two days and he's already admitting his undying love for you? The last time I checked, love takes ages to develop - you can't possibly love someone within 48 hours of knowing them... you like them alot, yeah, but I don't see how you can love someone within that amount of time.
Try thinking about this - don't you think it's a biiiit suspicious that within 2 days of 'knowing you', that he immediately wants to meet you? This is when your senses should start to come into play - why? And how does he know you really are who you say you are??

In my opinion, two days is WAY too early to be meeting, I wouldn't even meet someone within such a short amount of time; but I'm very cautious like that; I have to be, anyone does.
You don't know this guy, you don't know the slightest thing about him. How do you know he isn't some 60 year old pedo sitting behind the computer screen grooming all his victims - you being it? You just don't know.. He could be absolutely anyone. Haven't you heard about this online precaution saftey stuff? They do it for a reason you know..

Tell him it's way too early to meet each other, and make him well aware that you want to take things slow. Don't rush into anything just because it's what HE wants, take it at your OWN pace and go at the rate you see fit. And if you lose him by doing this, then he simply isn't the one for you because he'd wait and respect your decision.

You could try getting to know him more - get to know his likes and dislikes, what he does for a living, ask about his background, get to know as much as possible before you allow anything to happen - but take into consideration the fact that he could be feeding you a whole load of crap.
Don't convince yourself you're so desperately inlove with him, I highly doubt you'd give your life just to save his - you just obviously like him alot, that's all, or what you've seen of him, anyway.

But you honestly ought to be more careful with people on here and take into consideration the saftey precautions.
People are rarely who they say they are on here; throughout my time on Forums and the Rooms, I've found out over a period of months that a certain 'guy' isn't who he said he was. I was actually shocked when he finally admitted it because he really had me, and a whole load of others, thoroughly convinced, but anyway..
Remember: You only know what people want you to know - everyone is on their best behaviour when you 1st meet - online or offline, it's only natural, but it's only after a period of time, that things begin to unintentionally slip, and you see that person for who they really are, which is exactly why you should wait and take things SLOW, to give you a chance and an opportunity to know them fully, and even discover their faults as well as good points.... And THEN decide what you want, and if he's even the one for you...

[Caitlyn20]

You have told him that two days is to soon to meet, but you do want to meet him a couple months down the road.. you have to be blunt with him in a way that he knows your not joking & that it is to soon for you to travel two-hundred miles to meet someone you have only known for two days.

I personally think meeting someone after talking to them on the phone/messenger is to soon, yet alone be telling the other person "I love you." Talk to this person get to know them more. And when you feel your ready to meet this other person thats when you should meet the other person.

And just because you have talked to them on the phone or computer doesn't mean you know this person. Like Nicole said this person could be some old man telling you all sorts of things. When the day comes when I would decide to meet the other person, I would make sure it's at a public place. Better safe then sorry.

If this other person does tend to be the right one for you, he would understand why you have to be cautious these days. To many weird people out there that you can't afford to trust anymore.

[Nebacudnezar]

Originally Posted by *N·i·c·o·l·є*

LOL. Let me get this straight; You've known each other two days and he's already admitting his undying love for you? The last time I checked, love takes ages to develop - you can't possibly love someone within 48 hours of knowing them... you like them alot, yeah, but I don't see how you can love someone within that amount of time.
Try thinking about this - don't you think it's a biiiit suspicious that within 2 days of 'knowing you', that he immediately wants to meet you? This is when your senses should start to come into play - why? And how does he know you really are who you say you are??

In my opinion, two days is WAY too early to be meeting, I wouldn't even meet someone within such a short amount of time; but I'm very cautious like that; I have to be, anyone does.
You don't know this guy, you don't know the slightest thing about him. How do you know he isn't some 60 year old pedo sitting behind the computer screen grooming all his victims - you being it? You just don't know.. He could be absolutely anyone. Haven't you heard about this online precaution saftey stuff? They do it for a reason you know..

Tell him it's way too early to meet each other, and make him well aware that you want to take things slow. Don't rush into anything just because it's what HE wants, take it at your OWN pace and go at the rate you see fit. And if you lose him by doing this, then he simply isn't the one for you because he'd wait and respect your decision.

You could try getting to know him more - get to know his likes and dislikes, what he does for a living, ask about his background, get to know as much as possible before you allow anything to happen - but take into consideration the fact that he could be feeding you a whole load of crap.
Don't convince yourself you're so desperately inlove with him, I highly doubt you'd give your life just to save his - you just obviously like him alot, that's all, or what you've seen of him, anyway.

But you honestly ought to be more careful with people on here and take into consideration the saftey precautions.
People are rarely who they say they are on here; throughout my time on Forums and the Rooms, I've found out over a period of months that a certain 'guy' isn't who he said he was. I was actually shocked when he finally admitted it because he really had me, and a whole load of others, thoroughly convinced, but anyway..
Remember: You only know what people want you to know - everyone is on their best behaviour when you 1st meet - online or offline, it's only natural, but it's only after a period of time, that things begin to unintentionally slip, and you see that person for who they really are, which is exactly why you should wait and take things SLOW, to give you a chance and an opportunity to know them fully, and even discover their faults as well as good points.... And THEN decide what you want, and if he's even the one for you...

I said every you just said to him to i dont wanna meet him yet i would never in a million years meet some one after two day.s Lolololol

But every thing is feels natural with him if you no what i mean and he has gat a LIVERPOOL accent *drools* its so sunsual you have no idea,

I think hes a gay player Lololol hes to smooth and silky for his own good he thinks his clever but ime onto him,

Lol as if i would come out the closet after knowing some one to day,s fook that i taked to him for 2 hours last knight on the phone and i dont talk to any one for 2 hourse on a phone lol *shocked* and for a whole hour he was telling me to tell my mum iwas gay hes a lunatic Lol.!

[Nebacudnezar]

Originally Posted by Caitlyn20

You have told him that two days is to soon to meet, but you do want to meet him a couple months down the road.. you have to be blunt with him in a way that he knows your not joking & that it is to soon for you to travel two-hundred miles to meet someone you have only known for two days.

I personally think meeting someone after talking to them on the phone/messenger is to soon, yet alone be telling the other person "I love you." Talk to this person get to know them more. And when you feel your ready to meet this other person thats when you should meet the other person.

And just because you have talked to them on the phone or computer doesn't mean you know this person. Like Nicole said this person could be some old man telling you all sorts of things. When the day comes when I would decide to meet the other person, I would make sure it's at a public place. Better safe then sorry.

If this other person does tend to be the right one for you, he would understand why you have to be cautious these days. To many weird people out there that you can't afford to trust anymore.

Ye your very right but i am a bit mushy over him lol youd have to talk to him to no what i mean hes not an old man i no that for sure like Lololol.

[Raymond James]

Originally Posted by Nebacudnezar

Hi

I have been chatting to this lad for 2 day,s ye on msn and on the phone and i think i am falling in love with him for real like,

When we chat on msn we call each other silly names and stuff and have a laff but when we talk on the phone we get all seriouse about each other i really really like this lad,

He lives about two hundred miles away from me but that,s not a bad thing because i wouldnt want him to live where i live,

But what ime asking is when we talk on the phone he tell,s me he loves me to bit,s and he want,s me to come out the closetand come to where he lives, i say the same thing,s to him to but i keep saying to him that its to soon for me to come out and go to him i mean we have only known each other 2 day,s

But i really do want to come out once and for all and go to him so i said to him , let,s wait a while and if we still feel the same way ill do it ill come out i said three month,s or so like but,...........

What i wanna know is how can i feel like this if ive only known him 2 day,s ffs

And what do you lot think i should do give me some advice will yoo,s

Thanx.!

I'd give you my advice but you wouldn't like it.

[42606 x aaf]

um.. dont push it. its 2 days. give it time... cuz its just a crush. and long distant relationships dont work well...

[Candescence.]

Originally Posted by Nebacudnezar

I said every you just said to him to i dont wanna meet him yet i would never in a million years meet some one after two day.s Lolololol

But every thing is feels natural with him if you no what i mean and he has gat a LIVERPOOL accent *drools* its so sunsual you have no idea,

I think hes a gay player Lololol hes to smooth and silky for his own good he thinks his clever but ime onto him,

Lol as if i would come out the closet after knowing some one to day,s fook that i taked to him for 2 hours last knight on the phone and i dont talk to any one for 2 hourse on a phone lol *shocked* and for a whole hour he was telling me to tell my mum iwas gay hes a lunatic Lol.!

Wtf.. Can you make sense please?

All I can say is BE CAREFUL OF HIM. =]

[Luka]

It's lust, I'm guessing considering you've never been with a guy before. So you're prolly both full of lust at the fact you might end up getting laid. Definitely not love, Michael.
And for a kickoff, any man who pressurised me intot elling my parents I was gay, would get his balls kicked. And is he's a lunatic, you'd be best to steer well clear of him.

[Raymond James]

Originally Posted by Luka

It's lust, I'm guessing considering you've never been with a guy before. So you're prolly both full of lust at the fact you might end up getting laid. Definitely not love, Michael.

Which is what I was thinking too, amazing.