My feelings

[Bailey]

Okay, so I don't usually ask people for advice, but this is special.

All details aside, I don't want to go back and live with my mom, she does bad things and has a new boy friend. For the past while I've been living with very good people, I find that I've grown attached to them too. In July my mother told me I had to come back, so I did only because I lacked in any other option. I've decided to call the authorities on her, they've checked her out and I'd waiting for details.

Now, the point of this is to ask why I feel the ways I do. Sometimes I'm happy, and then I feel sad... Lots of the time I feel indifferent and I know that's a bad thing, I always feel something, I know I don't want to return to my old home, but still I'm assaulted by damn mood swings... I don't want them any more because the people I'm around say I've changed and that I'm not the me I used to be anymore, I can't stand it when people accuse others of such radical change without further knowledge of what's up with them.

So, I'm trusting you, the strangers I most likely will never meet, with my problem, Can you help?

[Your Favorite Crush]

Originally Posted by Bailey

Okay, so I don't usually ask people for advice, but this is special.

All details aside, I don't want to go back and live with my mom, she does bad things and has a new boy friend. For the past while I've been living with very good people, I find that I've grown attached to them too. In July my mother told me I had to come back, so I did only because I lacked in any other option. I've decided to call the authorities on her, they've checked her out and I'd waiting for details.

Now, the point of this is to ask why I feel the ways I do. Sometimes I'm happy, and then I feel sad... Lots of the time I feel indifferent and I know that's a bad thing, I always feel something, I know I don't want to return to my old home, but still I'm assaulted by damn mood swings... I don't want them any more because the people I'm around say I've changed and that I'm not the me I used to be anymore, I can't stand it when people accuse others of such radical change without further knowledge of what's up with them.

So, I'm trusting you, the strangers I most likely will never meet, with my problem, Can you help?

Good for you on calling the authorities.
As for your moods, depending on age [but not always] it could be anything from a physcological issue in which case you made need therapy or midication [if not both] or it could be something as small as a deficiency. Many things can cause mood swings, the only thing to do as far as that goes is narrow it down, talk to someone and find out how to get to the core of the issue.
Good luck with your living arrangements.

[blondy-uk™]

I suppose you feel the way you do for any of the following
1: obligation to your mother as her daughter not to turn her over to the authorities , having said that you did the right thing
2:You have been let down and occaisonaly get your head round it good mood then right it comes back in your face bad mood hence "mood swings"
3:i had several problems growing up but im 22 and beleive me i have spoken to my mother about 4 times in 3 years ...xmas and bumping into one n other
it makes you feel lousy why didnt you get the normal mother your friend has who's sweet and caring? why! becus we got the sh!t end of the stick

obviously i got a bit caught up in my own problems there so moving on try not to dwell on it 'easier said than done, but are you going to let her carry on spoiling your life i'd seek medical help regarding mood swings maybe approach counselling hun or pm me and i can give you advice i cant post on forums due to me not wanting to publicise my childhood and so on...

good luck hun

[Bailey]

You guys seem really knowledgeable in this kind of stuff.. Should I be happy or sad over that?

Well, I think things are starting to simmer down.. My mom had her baby, it was a girl. And I think my mom is going to sign over temporary guardianship of me to the people I'm with now, my younger brothers and sisters dad is starting to clean himself up and promises me that he'll try to get them, if he doesn't I'll have to do something again... But what of the baby, now she's born and she needs her mother now most of all, I suppose... This all sounds so fake, a happy ending and a clearing sky, just you wait, I'll be posting here that her psychotic boyfriend is in jail on charges of homicide and drug trafficking... Cross you fingers I suppose..

"Since all is well, keep it so. Wake not the sleeping wolf."

[blondy-uk™]

Good luck trust your instincts hun you can't go wrong!

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It seems to me that you did the right thing. I don't know what "bad things" you refer to that your mom does, but you trusted your instincts.

As for your feelings, I can only say that your mood swings are a result of the difficult decision in calling the authorities on your mom. Perhaps subconciously you feel bad about doing so, even though it was the right thing to do. People often get conflicting feelings when they do what you had to do. But, try and think about this: What would have happened had you NOT called the authorities? I don't know what the outcome of all this will be...perhaps you'll keep us updated. Good luck in this difficult situation, but I believe you did the right thing.

[drchic]

Hi Bailey,
I'm "drchic"... I'm a therapist... have you seen a therapist? Sounds like what we call an "adjustment disorder", which is basically a catch all diagnosis that simply means that a person is experience stress in life and is having trouble adjusting to it. It's not something that is lifelong, it doesn't follow you through life. It can be "fixed" with the right treatment. Essentially, treatment would include evaluating current coping skills.

[Rosco]

too long, didn't read

[drchic]

Shoulda read the rules first. And I didn't realize posts had to be short. So, I just want to say good luck. You are doing the right things. Maybe see a therapist- it can help.

drchic

[Nebacudnezar]

Originally Posted by Bailey

Okay, so I don't usually ask people for advice, but this is special.

All details aside, I don't want to go back and live with my mom, she does bad things and has a new boy friend. For the past while I've been living with very good people, I find that I've grown attached to them too. In July my mother told me I had to come back, so I did only because I lacked in any other option. I've decided to call the authorities on her, they've checked her out and I'd waiting for details.

Now, the point of this is to ask why I feel the ways I do. Sometimes I'm happy, and then I feel sad... Lots of the time I feel indifferent and I know that's a bad thing, I always feel something, I know I don't want to return to my old home, but still I'm assaulted by damn mood swings... I don't want them any more because the people I'm around say I've changed and that I'm not the me I used to be anymore, I can't stand it when people accuse others of such radical change without further knowledge of what's up with them.

So, I'm trusting you, the strangers I most likely will never meet, with my problem, Can you help?

I think you feel so bad because she is your mother and any would but,

If she doesnt care about you or isnt be a mother to you i think you shouldnt live with her but you will feel bad and even home sick but that will pass with time and what,s important is that you are safe and well and in a loveing home with people who care about you.!