Jealous best friends

[poisonXheart]

Ok, I will start from the top. I started going out with this guy a year ago. We broke up, and he dated this other woman for a while. This other woman ended up getting really angry because his best friend (a female he has known all his life) kissed him on the lips briefly in front of her. They ended up breaking up, and me and my ex, who have always remained good friends, are practically together again. The issue at hand is that I think his best friend is becoming a tad maniacal.

She has started being really condescending to me, and if we are ever anywhere with my bf, she purposely hangs around and says underhandedly bitchy things to me in the form of jest, and if my bf says anything she just says she was joking. She is really mean when I am around her without him, but he doesn't understand and doesn't really think she has an issue.

For example, the a few months back me and my bf went away together for the first time and she insisted on coming along. She even wanted my seat so that she could sit near him. Now this week, she is going away and invited him along, with another male friend, but doesn't want me going.

I am inclined to agree with the other girl that she is secretly in love with my bf and is being really bitchy and jealous. I am really annoyed because he has known her his whole life. He is starting to realise that she is getting a lot over the top, but it makes me angry.

So, has anyone else been in a relationship with someone who has a jealous best friend? and also, how can they be disposed of in a civil manner?

[AжзMann]

Quick, quiet and simple. She sees it as "All's fair in love and war." She wants to be the last woman standing in this guys life. There really is no civil way to put a stop to this because civility is only a delay, not a cure. It needs to get ugly and it needs to get ugly in front of him.

He will have to decide and unfortunately sometimes life doesn't turn out the way we want it too. Some how you need to put this chick in her place and convince him that you love and need him more then he loves and needs her. I dont see any other way because it looks to me like you have run out of options.

Have a think about anything you can use against her and try to pick your battles wisely. Wait for her to attack you then unload on her but not so much to make your guy think your over zealous.

[♥Ťeddy♥]

Since ya adults take it slowly because adults are best known for taking things slowly at a time and have you talked to your future husband because best friends come and last a awhile but true love never dies...omg Im i changing the subject...oops...anyways talk to your boyfriend....

[seXybitCh23]

Originally Posted by poisonXheart

Ok, I will start from the top. I started going out with this guy a year ago. We broke up, and he dated this other woman for a while. This other woman ended up getting really angry because his best friend (a female he has known all his life) kissed him on the lips briefly in front of her. They ended up breaking up, and me and my ex, who have always remained good friends, are practically together again. The issue at hand is that I think his best friend is becoming a tad maniacal.

She has started being really condescending to me, and if we are ever anywhere with my bf, she purposely hangs around and says underhandedly bitchy things to me in the form of jest, and if my bf says anything she just says she was joking. She is really mean when I am around her without him, but he doesn't understand and doesn't really think she has an issue.

For example, the a few months back me and my bf went away together for the first time and she insisted on coming along. She even wanted my seat so that she could sit near him. Now this week, she is going away and invited him along, with another male friend, but doesn't want me going.

I am inclined to agree with the other girl that she is secretly in love with my bf and is being really bitchy and jealous. I am really annoyed because he has known her his whole life. He is starting to realise that she is getting a lot over the top, but it makes me angry.

So, has anyone else been in a relationship with someone who has a jealous best friend? and also, how can they be disposed of in a civil manner?

Sounds like his best friend is just pushing your buttons.. at the same time with your bf. Shes trying to see how far she can push you with out any hmm... lecturing from him. I agree with the other post. Talk to him.. sit him down and let him know whats been bothering you and make sure he knows you're serious and the situation is serious. Men.. boys don't get hints.
It sounds like he lets her get away with stuff... more than what you probably know. Good luck

[Your Favorite Crush]

Originally Posted by poisonXheart

Ok, I will start from the top. I started going out with this guy a year ago. We broke up, and he dated this other woman for a while. This other woman ended up getting really angry because his best friend (a female he has known all his life) kissed him on the lips briefly in front of her. They ended up breaking up, and me and my ex, who have always remained good friends, are practically together again. The issue at hand is that I think his best friend is becoming a tad maniacal.

She has started being really condescending to me, and if we are ever anywhere with my bf, she purposely hangs around and says underhandedly bitchy things to me in the form of jest, and if my bf says anything she just says she was joking. She is really mean when I am around her without him, but he doesn't understand and doesn't really think she has an issue.

For example, the a few months back me and my bf went away together for the first time and she insisted on coming along. She even wanted my seat so that she could sit near him. Now this week, she is going away and invited him along, with another male friend, but doesn't want me going.

I am inclined to agree with the other girl that she is secretly in love with my bf and is being really bitchy and jealous. I am really annoyed because he has known her his whole life. He is starting to realise that she is getting a lot over the top, but it makes me angry.

So, has anyone else been in a relationship with someone who has a jealous best friend? and also, how can they be disposed of in a civil manner?

Civil? Oh yes...yes....I would wait for a time when there's not too many people around and when she zings you, just zing her right back with as much tack and wit as possible. Thing is, I think she does this because you seem nice, don't respond. This situation is always sucky, and it's the mature thing to do in not replying or letting it get to you, but we're all human and have to stand up for ourselves. I once wrote someone a little note on a post-it 'Sucks to be you eh?' and they got the picture.
Best of luck to ya.

[wexel]

Dump both of 'em and get with someone who only wants to kiss you....

[poisonXheart]

Thanks, you guys are awesome and I do appreciate you all
I am thinking along the lines of just telling her in front of him to back off, and if neither of them like it, I move on. If I receive some progress, I sort it out with said boy.
I'll update and let you all know how it goes