Young Man, Older Woman

Opinionated Lady · 09-24-2006, 05:11 AM

What are your thoughts of dating a man or woman 8+ years older than you? Is there a double standard when it comes to the older ***?

09-24-2006, 05:18 AM

Well to be honest it depends. I think a guy should be older than a girl since guys mature much slower mentaly. For me the top age difference in my guy being older would be 6 yrs. With women being older its more difficult as they may not be submissive because their partner is younger. My friend had this problem, she was 16 and he was 13 turning 14. She felt more like his mum and they split up coz he was immature. So it honestly depends on the persons behaviour.

BrunetteWithAttitude · 09-25-2006, 12:58 AM

I say it's whatever really. I mean I think this kinda thing relates to the interracial dating thing because you're going to have people snickering...pointing..laughing etc. The whole thing about women maturing faster than guys..yes...but I think the key is that most women mature period..a lot of men don't. I have seen/talked to men much older than me...chatrooms are a good example of this btw...who act like they're 10 and it disgusts me.But then again..you get some guys younger than you who act more mature than the ones older than you. I say if you're happy with that person then go for it. I usually prefer to be with men older than me..or around my age...a year or so younger isn't bad. I just say do what you wanna do..society is harsh when it comes to dating period..and it's not gunna get any better..you just have to accept the fact that not everyone will accept your decisions..but that's where you have to have the screw it attitude because the way I see it..you're not trying to please other people..and it's really none of their damn business who you date.

Opinionated Lady · 09-25-2006, 02:37 PM

I have went both ways and the younger man isn't for me. Women are definately more mature than men. As far as *** the younger man may be able to please you just as an older man may not be able to, but mentally and sometimes emotionally he just wasn't there. The older man I dates was also able to please me but at times I felt that I was growing tired of him because we didn't share the same interest (which sometimes was due to age) so I felt compelled to talk to younger men to entertain me in a non-sexual manner(which I had to do behind his back) and needless to say that doesn't work. Most importantly, at times he would talk down to me as if I was his child because I was ignorant on certain subjects that any 20 year old would be expected to be ignorant about, such as a lien and other subjects of matter you maybe don't experience until you are older. I want the skills and maturity of an older man with the youthful spontaneity and stamina of a young man. Boy is it hard to find!

--I think it is gross for a man to be with a female young enough to be his daughter or her friend, but I find it twice as gross for a woman to be with a male young enough to be her son.

ewokvillage2000 · 09-30-2006, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by ANDEL

guys mature much slower mentaly.

That is absolute bull****. You're just not meeting th right guys. I know plenty of girls who are older than me and they act like 12 year olds. There is no scientific data to suggest that women mature faster than man mentally.

ANYWHO!! I wouldn't mind an older girl. I actually sort of look for them more than younger ones. But I'm still a young guy. By the time I hit 30, I might not be as interested in them. I'm just not that attracted to most women my age. They play too many games. But- you have to watch out if you get an older woman, because she might only be with you to try to relive her glory days or something. But then again, I'm not looking for some 45 year old or anything. In the long run though, older woman/younger man relationships rarely seem to work out that well. But still, if some people want to do that, I have no problem with it. It's none of my business.

09-30-2006, 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ewokvillage2000

That is absolute bull****. You're just not meeting th right guys. I know plenty of girls who are older than me and they act like 12 year olds. There is no scientific data to suggest that women mature faster than man mentally.

ANYWHO!! I wouldn't mind an older girl. I actually sort of look for them more than younger ones. But I'm still a young guy. By the time I hit 30, I might not be as interested in them. I'm just not that attracted to most women my age. They play too many games. But- you have to watch out if you get an older woman, because she might only be with you to try to relive her glory days or something. But then again, I'm not looking for some 45 year old or anything. In the long run though, older woman/younger man relationships rarely seem to work out that well. But still, if some people want to do that, I have no problem with it. It's none of my business.

WTF!!!!? Are you serious??? There are facts that guys mature slower mentaly than girls.... I'll get you the info. You also see it from boys behaviours e.g. spongey. Yes I agree some girls are very immature as well, i know plenty and maybe I should have posted that in my earlier post too. I didn't mean to offend any guys, I just stated the facts.

poison arrow · 09-30-2006, 06:08 AM

when i was younger i luved older women, now im older i luv younger women.

The Voice · 09-30-2006, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ANDEL

WTF!!!!? Are you serious??? There are facts that guys mature slower mentaly than girls.... I'll get you the info. You also see it from boys behaviours e.g. spongey. Yes I agree some girls are very immature as well, i know plenty and maybe I should have posted that in my earlier post too. I didn't mean to offend any guys, I just stated the facts.

Supposedly, girls are more mentally "mature" than boys by about 2 years (though I have no idea how maturity can be measured), but males "catch up" in their late-teens/early 20's.

Keeping on topic ... I don't think age matters. There are fun-loving older people, and wise young people. Love doesn't care.

themauler · 10-01-2006, 11:30 PM

attitude is everthing

Luka · 10-02-2006, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ANDEL

WTF!!!!? Are you serious??? There are facts that guys mature slower mentaly than girls.... I'll get you the info. You also see it from boys behaviours e.g. spongey. Yes I agree some girls are very immature as well, i know plenty and maybe I should have posted that in my earlier post too. I didn't mean to offend any guys, I just stated the facts.

Maria, you can't compare Sponge's maturity to a fact. Because, this is the net.
You've not met him in real life, so you can't say that, or make assumptions.