Separating the Factors of Gay Men/Women..

[Luka]

Within a gay couple, be it men or women, you'll (mostly) find that one is masculine and one is feminine.

Some people 'pick' the masculine men out by:
-Muscles
-Hairiness
-Deep Voice
-Style of dress.

And the feminine men by:
-Twink[s]
-Smooth bodied. (i.e- obsessed with having no hair on chest, and/or genital area)
-Soft spoken or slightly slanted 'bent' voice.
-Highly updated with fashion and/or make-up.

I personally think that women are harder to point out that they're gay, and even harder of who's the bitch and who's the butch. (So I'm guessing when I say this, as I don't know.)

Factors that point out the butch lesbian:
-Deep voice
-Is built like Arnold Schwarznegger
-Dress not like the typical lady.

Factors that point out the bitch lesbian:
-Girly
-Dresses like a stylish lady

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So, what I'm asking is: Are there any other giveaways that you've noticed that determine the masculine/feminine homosexual in a relationship?
Can either be from experience (from being in a relationship), some people you know, or from the dead giveaways.

And an additinal question: If both partners in the relationship are either masculine or feminine, have you ever noticed any factors that reveal who's less masculine/feminine than the other?

((And don't bother responding with ''Because one gets it, and the other gives it''; because you're just an idiot if you do.))

AND THIS IS A GOOD THREAD SO PISS OFF WITH SPAM.

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With the gay and lesbian couples I know, the masculine man in a relationship, and the butch in a female relationship, both are the "leaders". They have a tendency to make a lot of the decisions in the relationship. The other night I was out with a lesbian couple I am friendly with. The butch pretty much dictated what, where and when things were going to happen that night. She ordered the drinks for the "bitch female", ordered he meal for her, and when they were ready to leave, told her "Let's go," without even asking if she was ready.

Do I agree with this kind of "control" in a relationship? NO. Now, when I was in a serious romantic relationship several years ago, he and I both had our own ways of doing things. He had his own mind and voice, and I had mine. We were what was called a "versatile" couple. Meaning there was no dom or sub, masculine or femme. We were both just 2 men who loved each other very much. We made decisions as a team.

As far as physical appearance goes... we both looked basically alike. I won't go into detail but yeah. Neither of us had the typical gay lisp that society stereotypes us with. We were also not necessarily followers of top fashion (LOL we were students on a strict budget). We were just 2 guys, who happened to love each other. We took turns cooking, cleaning, paying bills. Neither was assigned any chore. We just did what needed doing.

[Luka]

I always believed that the bitch and the fem cooked.
I can't cook though.
Although I could clean for Britain. ._. I hate mess.
And the masculine/butch one worked and brought home the money.
The feminine/bitch is always the romantic one, I'd say.
That was my thought because I compared to straight couples.

But I'd feel bad if only my partner worked, and I didn't. I'd feel guilty and lazy. So I'd rather get a job as well.

And, I agree with the saying 'versatile'. You probably know I don't like being bossed around or told what to do; I'd rather be asked.
But I do agree that both are equal and both should have a say.

And if anyone ever wants a meal cooked, never ever ask me.
The probable best you'd get is a slice of Toast.

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LOL Anthony hated it when I tried to cook. I said we took turns. But he DREADED it when it was my turn.

[The Voice]

Whichever partner has their hand on the other one's ass is the dominant one.

[Luka]

Originally Posted by The Voice

Whichever partner has their hand on the other one's ass is the dominant one.

Care to elaborate, as I'd tend to disagree with that comment.

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I'd actually disagree with Voice's comment as well.

Usually in relationships it's the submissive one who is always seeking the reassurances of a partner so touches them because they aren't as secure in the relationsip as the dominant.

Also submissive and dominant is totally different to masculine and feminine as you can have dominant yet feminine people and you can have submissive yet masculine as well. I know quite a few rugby players (and I'm talking about 20 stone guys with plenty of hair) who are totally the submissive in their relationships and their girls are as feminine as you can think - bright pink, permatanned and little fluffy dog.

[Luka]

Originally Posted by §ØLÌÐ*§ÇØÛŠÊ

Usually in relationships it's the submissive one who is always seeking the reassurances of a partner so touches them because they aren't as secure in the relationsip as the dominant.

Aha, that's true. That's what I'm like. =/
Well I used to be, but not anymore.

But I do agree that I've seen masculine ones be more effeminate than the fem ones. I know one very well indeed.

[Luka]

Originally Posted by ***MARK C.***

Hey Luka, what kind of Purse do you take on a date with High Heels?

I don't wear heels. Nor do I take a purse.
I take myself, and my wallet, and a condom incase the night goes my way.
Why you offering?

[§ØLÌÐ*§ÇØÛŠÊ]

Well I was going to say that Mark asked because he needed tips for his date. But then I realised how unlikely it was he would have a date.